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IdontWant2beAfatty    55

IdontWant2beAfatty
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As I am almost to my surgery date 8-29-2017 :) my pre-op diet has been not as bad as I thought the first few days I was very weak, the feeling of crashing came on most often but , now as I beginning to pack my hospital bag and prepare my mind for this journey that both my mind and body are about to take, I am very nervous... I am not nervous that I can not change my eating habits, I am also not nervous for the pain, or the way my life is about to change very quickly in just the next few short days.... My nerves are coming from the sheer fact that for the first time in 32 years I have to take care of ME and that is a very VERY scary concept for me.. I take care of kids, my kids, our kids, their kids, my spouse our family's, my siblings, I take care of so many things and people in My life... that not taking care of me has been easy because I always had the excuse that I only had time to shovel junk in my mouth or I did not have time to work out or live a healthy lifestyle... the transition has been easy thus far but I no this will be a battle of me learning to do what I can do to care for myself... I wonder if I am the only one that feels like this, how will I make time, how will I learn to say no for myself... how can I be better for me with out feeling an over whelming guilt or feeling of selfishness??? Any advice would be greatly appreciated Thank you and Have a wonderful day

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As I am almost to my surgery date 8-29-2017 my pre-op diet has been not as bad as I thought the first few days I was very weak, the feeling of crashing came on most often but , now as I beginning to pack my hospital bag and prepare my mind for this journey that both my mind and body are about to take, I am very nervous... I am not nervous that I can not change my eating habits, I am also not nervous for the pain, or the way my life is about to change very quickly in just the next few short days.... My nerves are coming from the sheer fact that for the first time in 32 years I have to take care of ME and that is a very VERY scary concept for me.. I take care of kids, my kids, our kids, their kids, my spouse our family's, my siblings, I take care of so many things and people in My life... that not taking care of me has been easy because I always had the excuse that I only had time to shovel junk in my mouth or I did not have time to work out or live a healthy lifestyle... the transition has been easy thus far but I no this will be a battle of me learning to do what I can do to care for myself... I wonder if I am the only one that feels like this, how will I make time, how will I learn to say no for myself... how can I be better for me with out feeling an over whelming guilt or feeling of selfishness??? Any advice would be greatly appreciated Thank you and Have a wonderful day

I know where your coming from that's all I ever did was take care of everyone but me. Sadly now I am in so much pain and out of shape. I use an amigo when I shop. I hate feeling like this. So it is now my turn it's all about me and my health. I'm 61 I'm going to have the sleeve done soon waiting for a surgery date. I'm so excited I'm have trouble sleeping thinking about it. Thoughts of maybe it won't work or wow I could be thin. So very many thoughts. But I'm ready for this journey. My daughter had the sleeve done two years ago. She looks amazing she lost 130 pounds. She a whole new person. Good luck you will do great!


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Missy161    395

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I'm right there with you. I have 4 kids and a husband. I've never taken care of myself or out myself first. It feels strange to do that. It's kind of fun though. I'm enjoying getting myself ready for work and not fretting about clothes. I've gotten a new haircut and some new makeup. I still take care of my family , but I'm not putting myself last anymore. I think you might feel the same way once you are post surgery.


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IdontWant2beAfatty    55

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One week post op ;) I'm feeling ok An I'm going to continue working on taking care of me I'll never stop taking care of everyone else but I no that it's my time to squeeze myself in their I deserve happiness to


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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. LeighaTR

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        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

    • Alisa_S

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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