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Hello all! Just wondering if anyone has been going through what I have been.

Last year I lost 40 lbs but now I have gained it all back. My doctor referred me to the sleeve due to health reasons (high BP and High Cholesterol) My mom is mad about it and won't even discuss it with me. My friends are trying to get me to start a gym membership with them and said I can lose weight to fast to go through this surgery. They said they worry about me. I am 5'5" and I weigh 240 lbs. I get this gasp of "OMG, you are having that dangerous surgery" when I mention it to someone.

My husband was not for it until my first app. Now he is for it, not 100%, but is not trying to talk to out of it.

Also, now I am afraid I have GERD and the doctor will want me to have gastric bypass instead of sleeve, which I will refuse, and all this will be a waste. Shew, just torn.

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Nobody has the right to be "mad" over your decision .... the dr "wanting " you to have the bypass versus a sleeve... keep one thing in mind this is YOUR choice and YOUR decision it's YOUR body and YOUR life .... make your own decision don't allow others to decide how YOUR life should be

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You,and your hubby form a strong circle of support. Do not,allow naysayers in your circle. Stop talking about the surgery with everyone proceed in secret. Do what is right for you. You owe no one any explanation.
We are here for your support. I did mine in secret, just my hubby and one niece who had it was and still is my only support and the wonderful people here.
Don't pass this chance to change your life.
It's no one's business what you do.

HW 274 SW 263 GW 125 GASTRIC SLEEVE 7/21/17. Height 5'1" instagram: K_aane_VSG

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Your so-called 'friends' are focusing too much on weight loss by suggesting a gym membership when the real issue for most obese people is keeping the weight off.

We've all lost weight without surgery. However, we couldn't keep it off without surgery.

Obesity is not curable, ever. While it can be put into remission by achieving a normal weight, our bodies will always fight to regain. Hence, 95 percent of people who lose weight with diet and exercise regain it all plus more.

Before I ever had surgery, I'd lost 200+ pounds over the years through yo-yo dieting (lose 30 pounds, regain 50, lose 60, regain 90, and so on). I've had a gym membership for 16+ years.

Based on my history, I could lose weight without a problem. However, keeping it off is an uphill battle and surgery was my last hope for maintaining any type of weight loss long term.

I find it strange that your mother and friends discourage a life-saving surgery, yet these same people express no concerns about your obesity, high blood pressure, and elevated cholesterol. Your obesity will lead to an early demise faster than any type of weight loss surgery out there.

Good luck to you. :)

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
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