I've only told a few close family and friends about my surgery. Only 6 people know. I have not told anyone I work with. My manager knew I was having elective surgery but she didn't ask what I was having. I've currently got 4 weeks off from work. I know when I go back to work people will notice I've lost weight and will ask questions naturally. But I don't know what to say, I don't want to lie but I'm not ready to tell people about my surgery yet. Any advice?

ɪ ᴄʜᴏᴏsᴇ ɴᴏᴛ ᴛᴏ ᴛᴇʟʟ ᴀɴʏᴏɴᴇ ᴇxᴄᴇᴘᴛ ᴀ ғᴇᴡ ᴄʟᴏsᴇ ᴘᴇᴏᴘʟᴇ ᴀɴᴅ ɪ sʜᴀʀᴇᴅ ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴛʜᴇᴍ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ɪ ᴅɪᴅɴ'ᴛ ᴡᴀɴᴛ ᴛᴏ sʜᴀʀᴇ ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴇᴠᴇʀʏᴏɴᴇ.
ɪ'ᴍ ᴀ ᴠᴇʀʏ ᴘʀɪᴠᴀᴛᴇ ᴘᴇʀsᴏɴ ᴀɴᴅ ɪ ᴅᴏɴ'ᴛ ᴡᴀɴᴛ ᴛᴏ ʙᴇ ᴛʀᴇᴀᴛᴇᴅ ᴀɴʏ ᴅɪғғᴇʀᴇɴᴛ ɪғ ᴀɴʏᴏɴᴇ ᴋɴᴇᴡ ᴏʀ ᴋɴᴏᴡs ᴀʙᴏᴜᴛ ᴍʏ sᴜʀɢᴇʀʏ.
ɪɴ 3 ᴍᴏɴᴛʜs ɪ'ᴠᴇ ʟᴏsᴛ ᴀ ɴᴏᴛɪᴄᴇᴀʙʟᴇ 40ʟʙs ʙᴜᴛ ʙᴇғᴏʀᴇ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ɪ ᴍᴀᴅᴇ ɪᴛ ᴋɴᴏᴡɴ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ɪ ᴡᴀs ᴄʜᴀɴɢɪɴɢ ғᴏʀ ᴛʜᴇ ʙᴇᴛᴛᴇʀ. ʙᴇғᴏʀᴇ sᴜʀɢᴇʀʏ ɪ ʜᴀᴅ ʟᴏsᴛ 40ʟʙsᴏᴠᴇʀ ᴀ ʏᴇᴀʀ sᴏ ᴛʜᴇ ᴡᴇɪɢʜᴛ ʟᴏss ᴡᴀs ᴋɴᴏᴡɴ.
ʙᴜᴛ ɪ ᴅᴏɴ'ᴛ sʜᴀʀᴇ ɪᴛ ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴀɴʏᴏɴᴇ, ᴊᴜsᴛ ᴀ ᴘᴇʀsᴏɴᴀʟ ᴄʜᴏɪᴄᴇ.
ɪ ʜᴀᴠᴇ ɴᴏ ʀᴇɢʀᴇᴛs ᴀɴᴅ ʜᴀᴘᴘʏ ɪ ᴍᴀᴅᴇ ᴛʜᴇ ᴅᴇᴄɪsɪᴏɴ.

My experience was very similar. I began about 4 years ago losing weight, got stuck and couldn't seem to get any further than the 70 lost on my own, then chose to go the sleeve route just 3 months ago. Most people just notice that I seem to have broken through my plateau. [emoji6]. I told only 2 friends and my close family. I have now told 2 more friends since we eat out with them often. They sensed something was different. I just feel better that this is private. I don't want to answer the curiosity questions and don't want the dumb comments or the constant "so how are you doing?"

I'm day 6 post op. I'm very lucky to have a close friend who is 14 months post op - she's been a god-send - and two coworkers who are 11 months post op. I didn't keep it a secret at work. Figured everyone would know eventually. But I did not tell my or my husbands family. I tested the topic with my sisters last summer, who are both thin btw, and after getting the standard "isn't that for people who just don't have the discipline to eat right and work out?" I decided I didn't need to hear their opinions or worries and kept it to myself. I probably will eventually tell them but I only see them once or twice a year so hopefully I'll be a lot thinner when I do.