Tired of the comments

Please · May 17, 2017

20 hours ago, Redmaxx said:

OK, so I am very involved in the Veterans of Foreign Wars in Michigan. On Saturday we attended a fundraiser and I had no less than 10 people pull me aside to talk about my weight loss. And all 10 of them told me, "Well you don't need to lose any more weight or you will look sickly." I thought that was pretty ballsy. Who are they to tell me that I don't need to lose any more weight? Maybe I should have gone to them to perform the RNY on me since they have apparently all been to medical school. Mind your own damn business people and just be happy for me to be healthier.

Sorry, my rant is now over (it has been gnawing away at me since Saturday night). Please continue with your day.

I never told anyone about my WLS , but my husband. I started out at 223, I'm still 189lbs when my friends say "you can't loose another 25lbs " I say ..."I can most certainly do what I want " and then I laugh...and they laugh too. I think people mean it 1/2 as a compliment and 1/2 jealously ...maybe something else mixed in too. I have 4 close friends, 1 never even commented yet (the skinny one) , 1 commented after my weight became the conversation( the biggest one now) , the other 2 complimented me soon as they seen me (they are snow birds so I didn't see them in 3 months). I was the biggest one, now I'm the 2nd smallest one, so group dynamics change, people don't always like it, but they'll get over it!

FatChicGettinFit · May 17, 2017

I wondered about how group dynamics will change. In a group of 4 I'm either the biggest or next to biggest, I think the biggest will have a bent nose if I start losing because the other 2 are pretty fit.

FatChicGettinFit · May 17, 2017

I wondered about how group dynamics will change. In a group of 4 I'm either the biggest or next to biggest, I think the biggest will have a bent nose if I start losing because the other 2 are pretty fit.