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9 minutes ago, char3672 said:


Thank you! Every good story I hear makes me feel better!!!!

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Here's one more good story for you. I was such a mess before surgery. Very nervous and so, so scared. Four years and 4 months later, I am so happy that I had the nerve to go through with it! I can't imagine how much different my life would be today if I had chickened out that day. I live a VERY active life now and am very healthy and happy. Absolutely no regrets here! Good luck to you in June! You'll do great!

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Here's one more good story for you. I was such a mess before surgery. Very nervous and so, so scared. Four years and 4 months later, I am so happy that I had the nerve to go through with it! I can't imagine how much different my life would be today if I had chickened out that day. I live a VERY active life now and am very healthy and happy. Absolutely no regrets here! Good luck to you in June! You'll do great!



Thank you! I know that I NEED to do this. I have lost out on so much life because of my weight. (Never married, no kids of my own, low paying job, no confidance, health issues) I'm ready to live. And live pain free! I want to be there for my neices, (they are like my kids) without this surgery, I am only going to get older, fatter, and sadder. I'm so happy that you now have the life you want. I hope someday I will too.

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Thank you! I know that I NEED to do this. I have lost out on so much life because of my weight. (Never married, no kids of my own, low paying job, no confidance, health issues) I'm ready to live. And live pain free! I want to be there for my neices, (they are like my kids) without this surgery, I am only going to get older, fatter, and sadder. I'm so happy that you now have the life you want. I hope someday I will too.

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You're very brave for saying that and for taking this step. I wish you so much health and happiness and look forward to cheering you on!


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I have found a powerful motivator in this process is to take lots of full length "before" pictures...it helps me realize how much I want/need the "after".

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I completely know how you feel. My sleeve surgery is May 8th, less than 48 hours from now. When I first decided on getting the sleeve surgery, I did tons and tons of research on the surgery, different hospitals​, the surgeons, you name it, I researched it. After I made my decision on who was going to do it and where, I was elated and very confident in my decision. But now with only 2 days pre surgery, I have been a whirlwind of emotions! At times​, I will just burst out into happy elated laughter and at others terrified tears. No, I'm not bipolar​, this is just normal emotions for such a huge life changing decision.
Did I make the right decision? What if something happens so far away from home as I am from the US and having it in Mexico? What if, what if, what if???? However, I have already had wonderful support from the doctors, customer service and nutritionists​ with any and all questions I have had. I think a miriad of emotions is normal for anyone that is being put to sleep. Whether it is by choice or emergent. I feel sure as soon as you have the surgery, you will be so happy you made this decision to change your life. And then you will be on to a whole other set of emotions as you see your life getting better and healthier day after day. Good luck. I pray you will do fabulous.

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I completely know how you feel. My sleeve surgery is May 8th, less than 48 hours from now. When I first decided on getting the sleeve surgery, I did tons and tons of research on the surgery, different hospitals​, the surgeons, you name it, I researched it. After I made my decision on who was going to do it and where, I was elated and very confident in my decision. But now with only 2 days pre surgery, I have been a whirlwind of emotions! At times​, I will just burst out into happy elated laughter and at others terrified tears. No, I'm not bipolar​, this is just normal emotions for such a huge life changing decision.
Did I make the right decision? What if something happens so far away from home as I am from the US and having it in Mexico? What if, what if, what if???? However, I have already had wonderful support from the doctors, customer service and nutritionists​ with any and all questions I have had. I think a miriad of emotions is normal for anyone that is being put to sleep. Whether it is by choice or emergent. I feel sure as soon as you have the surgery, you will be so happy you made this decision to change your life. And then you will be on to a whole other set of emotions as you see your life getting better and healthier day after day. Good luck. I pray you will do fabulous.

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Thank you. Knowing that others have the same feelings/fears as I do helps. I hope your surgery goes well and I hope you post how things are going as you progress. I have heard MANY more happy stories than "bad", so I think that will help me to get past the scared phase I am in now. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!

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1 hour ago, hardwork&dedication said:

I have found a powerful motivator in this process is to take lots of full length "before" pictures...it helps me realize how much I want/need the "after".

I took some naked photos 2 days pre-surgery and looked at them yesterday. I am 4 weeks post-surgery and the changes to my body are already very visible and gratifying - wow!!

I went to Mexico for surgery and was nervous about it but meeting my surgeon the day before and seeing Hospital Angeles where I had my surgery calmed my nerves and concerns. Everything went very well - I had no complications and was very well cared for by everyone. My surgeon also visited me twice a day in the hospital and once a day in the hotel after I was discharged.

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On 5/5/2017 at 7:29 AM, OutsideMatchInside said:

@AmandaTherese

My health had been good, even being super heavy and diabetic, I didn't really have issues. Then it all started tumbling very fast and I was/am still a young person. Once I saw those dominoes tumbling, I decided to stop kidding myself and do something drastic. I didn't have anymore time to waste. I was seriously damaging my body. I realized I was at the point I wasn't going to die fast, but very slowly, painfully with a diminished quality of life.

I went from first visit to surgery in 8 weeks. If it wasn't for holidays and pre-op testing I could have done it in a month.

When I was being checked in and got on the gurney, I had already looked death in the face during my cardiac clearance to qualify for surgery. I had no fears being wheeled back. Either I would die that day in surgery, or pretty rapidly post-op from a complication and I was fine with that. I wasn't interested in 15 years of living like and old person because I love cheeseburgers and milk shakes.

This means the world to me why you wrote. Thank you. Your words are so tru. Ain't that the truth in all you speak!!! I want that quality of life. I want to run and play with my niece. I want to have children some day. I want to look fabulous in wedding dress on at. I want to stand on my feet for 12 hours as a nurse and have the energy for my patients. I need this..💜 #3weeks

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I just wanted to add one thing to this fear thread, in case it is helpful. I was so worried about how my new tiny stomach would feel and that I would experience regret and sadness that I couldn't eat more. I am only a few days out from surgery, so I'm sure there will be ups and downs, but so far, I am in love with how my tiny stomach feels. I am not hungry. I crave nothing. Instead of feeling constricting, it feels like freedom.

Anyway, I wanted to share that positive thought in case it helps with your fears going in.


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I just wanted to add one thing to this fear thread, in case it is helpful. I was so worried about how my new tiny stomach would feel and that I would experience regret and sadness that I couldn't eat more. I am only a few days out from surgery, so I'm sure there will be ups and downs, but so far, I am in love with how my tiny stomach feels. I am not hungry. I crave nothing. Instead of feeling constricting, it feels like freedom.

Anyway, I wanted to share that positive thought in case it helps with your fears going in.




I hope I feel as good as you. I'm not afraid of missing food, that's what got me to this point in the first place! I'm just worried about complications. I'm pretty healthy (arthritis and high bp are about it) so I'm hoping everything goes well.

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I have been focusing on the positive. If negative thoughts come in I push them away, and try to think positive thoughts. I am really confident in my surgeon and my team. I am nervous, and looking forward to my new life, but not scared.

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I'm June 14th as well! Two days ago I literally had to pull over while I was driving I was crying and crying like I lost something near and dear to me. I don't know where it came from but I definitely needed to get it out.. then I went to jack in the box. Sabotage at its best, I told myself no way not doing it F' it.. I need to save my life by going threw with this I probably won't have any good quality of life by the time I hit 30. I'm already feeling old, pain, slow, tired no energy and angry. I'm afraid, I'm scared something might happen.. but like the other poster said .. if I don't get the surgery something will happen but slower and even more painful.. we got this!!!

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I'm June 14th as well! Two days ago I literally had to pull over while I was driving I was crying and crying like I lost something near and dear to me. I don't know where it came from but I definitely needed to get it out.. then I went to jack in the box. Sabotage at its best, I told myself no way not doing it F' it.. I need to save my life by going threw with this I probably won't have any good quality of life by the time I hit 30. I'm already feeling old, pain, slow, tired no energy and angry. I'm afraid, I'm scared something might happen.. but like the other poster said .. if I don't get the surgery something will happen but slower and even more painful.. we got this!!!

I was nervous to the morning of my surgery. I had my family there for support. I was being prepped for surgery and almost walked out of the hospital to leave. Then I got strong and said to myself that I have worked so hard for this moment. I will never forget what I went through getting to that point. Be strong. Try to have family there with you. You can do this so that you have a better tomorrow. My health is very important to me. Diabetes scares me. So I decided to just go through with it and I told my doc to be sure to take good care of me. He kept his promise and had a nurse by my side even when I woke up after the surgery. I started walking right away when they put me in a room. That stopped the nausea and made me strong. I was discharged the next day. As soon as I got home I went out walking. I now walk six miles a day. Three after Breakfast and three after lunch. If the weather is bad then I use the treadmill that I got. Please be strong and I know you can do this. Best of luck to you.


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