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I am so new at this. I am 25, 5'2", 201.6 lbs as of today. I have been suffering from PCOS for a few years now. My blood pressure is in normal ranges and so is my blood sugar, the only thing that is elevated is my cholesterol. My dad had gastric bypass six years ago and constantly tells me it was the best thing he ever did and how he regrets waiting so long to do it, but when ever I try to broach the subject to my family they stop listening and tell me to try harder through traditional means. I have done Weight Watcher, Jenny Craig, Nutrisystem, meal plans, trainers, and been to see a D.O. that specializes in PCOS. In the last six months of changing my eating habits and working out more, I have only lost 4 lbs. The highest weight I have ever been was 3 months ago at 213. I understand that this weight is low for some people, but I am terrified of never getting the weight off. I don't know how to talk to my family about this. My boyfriend thinks it's taking the easy way out and that I just need to work harder, but I don't know what else to do. Obesity runs in my family, as does diabetes. I don't want to be either of these anymore. Surgery is a huge thing and it's not a magic pill that fixes everything, but it is a tool that could set me on the right path to success. I have become so down on myself over my weight and have been losing self confidence more and more everyday. This is something I really want to consider, but I need to have the support of my family and right now I feel as though they just don't understand the struggle I'm having. Has anyone else had this problem, does anymore know how to talk to them about it?

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I'm sorry that your boyfriend is not supportive. Is there a supportive friend who can be your support through this? Have you got a date yet? Whatever happens, make your choices for yourself and not anyone else.


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Well, it sounds like your father is on board. Your boyfriend has no clue what it is to live with a broken metabolism. (Even if he has one himself!).

If you want to try one last type of diet while researching the surgery and starting the process, you can try a ketogenic diet. (Lots of Proteins and fats, and less than 20g net carbs).

It usually takes at least 6 months to go from the thinking about phase to surgery, so you can try the diet while doing the process. If the diet works, you can always cancel the surgery. But if it doesn't, then you'll be glad you did both at the same time.

Google "Diet Doctor" and ketogenic

Good luck!




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My boyfriend has become more supportive after I talked to him even more about it and forced him to listen to me. My mom is beginning to after my PCOS Dr. suggested this surgery. I am at the very beginning, trying to find out if my insurance will cover anything, a surgeon, how much it will cost? But I am excited and hope to be moving forward soon.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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