Hi

I have decided to get the procedure done - just have to save up for it. I live in uk and want to go to Brussels as it seems cheapest and safest there. Anyone know of the above?

Thanks

Hi fatpants i dont think you need to go for the band x

Hi Wishfull,

Why's that then?

Fatpants

Just a little update on my Mum....

Well my moaning and asking for a meeting, and telling the surgeon about my Mum's dehydration has worked. Sarah went in to see her tonight and she is back to her old self.

Sarah says she has plasters inside her elbows, where they've had a drip. But when she asked the nurse, she played dumb

They have noticeably had her on a saline drip to put the fluid back in her body

I am so relieved, but will be voicing my complaint on Monday @ 9am when I have an appointment to see the sister and Doctor.

After all what would have happened if I hadnt spoken up??

B**tards !!!!! It's inexcusable, busy or not, I thought the idea was to keep patients alive not to put their lives at risk, maybe in the future they will be more vigilant with the elderly.

I have to get my stitches out that day too at 10:30 am, so wont have time to waste with the Sister and Doc, will have to get straight to the point.:thumbup:

Just a little update on my Mum....

Well my moaning and asking for a meeting, and telling the surgeon about my Mum's dehydration has worked. Sarah went in to see her tonight and she is back to her old self.

Sarah says she has plasters inside her elbows, where they've had a drip. But when she asked the nurse, she played dumb

They have noticeably had her on a saline drip to put the fluid back in her body

I am so relieved, but will be voicing my complaint on Monday @ 9am when I have an appointment to see the sister and Doctor.

After all what would have happened if I hadnt spoken up??

B**tards !!!!! It's inexcusable, busy or not, I thought the idea was to keep patients alive not to put their lives at risk, maybe in the future they will be more vigilant with the elderly.

I have to get my stitches out that day too at 10:30 am, so wont have time to waste with the Sister and Doc, will have to get straight to the point.:thumbup:

Maybe they thought if they did something it might let them off the hook and you wouldn't bother about the meeting on Monday but it's not the way it's supposed to work is it - you telling them what the problem is - it's not meant to be DIY diagnosis by family members. That's those who are lucky enough to have family who will be assertive, some poor devils have no-one and you just wonder what state they have to get into before anything gets done. Anyway, glad your Mum is on the mend and feeling more herself now, she will be home with you soon, fingers crossed. Hope you are feeling ok too, even if somewhat stressed, bigsister x

Thanx Big Sis, you are a sweetie xxx

Just a little update on my Mum....

Well my moaning and asking for a meeting, and telling the surgeon about my Mum's dehydration has worked. Sarah went in to see her tonight and she is back to her old self.

Sarah says she has plasters inside her elbows, where they've had a drip. But when she asked the nurse, she played dumb

They have noticeably had her on a saline drip to put the fluid back in her body

I am so relieved, but will be voicing my complaint on Monday @ 9am when I have an appointment to see the sister and Doctor.

After all what would have happened if I hadnt spoken up??

B**tards !!!!! It's inexcusable, busy or not, I thought the idea was to keep patients alive not to put their lives at risk, maybe in the future they will be more vigilant with the elderly.

I have to get my stitches out that day too at 10:30 am, so wont have time to waste with the Sister and Doc, will have to get straight to the point.:thumbup:

Isn't it terrible, just to receive normal patient care someone has to complain. I am so glad to hear your Mum is doing better now. For her to have improved so quickly they probably gave here antibiotics aswell as saline solution through the drip, that would help the infection she had, which would have been causing her to be hilucinating, or not all there for want of better words! I am really relieved for you, but still be strong at the meeting because you want this care to continue.

Take care

Fatpants

Hi freckles, im so glad your mum is on the mend.. she will soon be home with you getting proper care.. i dont know what it is with these places and elderly care? the elderly should be the ones who get the better care than anyone.. with out them living and surviving the war we wouldnt be where we are today, the ward mgr and dr will try and fob u off with some excuse. Good luck for then and when you have your stiches out x

Hi Wishfull,

Why's that then?

Fatpants

U dont look big at all in your pics x

Fatpants and Wishful, thanx for your comments and I agree with both of you, it is a disgrace to treat anyone this way more so the elderly who are at their most vulnerable time of life.

I hope nobody else has to suffer this, and I wish we had picked up on it earlier, rather than be fobbed off by the nurses saying 'well she wont be herself, she's just had major surgery'

I asked what was going on last Sunday, 3 days after my own op, because I felt that she should have been getting back to some sort of normality by then.

Thank you again girls for your support and I will be as strong as possible on Monday, at this meeting. My 2 daughters are coming with me and they both have things to say.

I'm going to write mine down and print it off, just to make me remember things.

Edited March 7, 200917 yr by Freckles

For anyone on the slop diet, like me, I made a lovely soup yesterday and have just finished it off, and am making more.

Asda's organics, soup mix...it doesnt need soaking you just simmer it for about an hour, it says 40 mins but I gave mine longer as I wanted it very soft.

I put an onion and garlic in it, a few Knorr chicken stock cubes and salt and pepper and it was lovely, so tasty.

I am not a great lover of pulses, but I know they are very nutricious so thought I'd give it a go.

The husband also loved it, though he added chilli powder to his.

At least you can eat something with a bit of adult flavouring in instead of baby food.

:laugh: Hi Freckles..im so glad your mum is feeling a lot better, and more like her old self..It will have been the water infection that was leaving her feeling awful and also halucinating, (and talking broken biscuits!(not heard that saying before!)..its not very nice for us to see when they are like that either is it. so glad you have got somewhere, and hope shell be able to stand up and take a few steps soon,i know it takes longer for broken bones to heal in the elderly, and shell need some physiotherapy, but like you say, the best physio is probably doing her normal things at home,where she has her family for support, she might need a frame,or sticks at first for confidence ,but hopefully shell be mended very soon. oh, hope your doing well too!?, your soup sounds lovely, ill take a trip to asda! x

:laugh: Hi Freckles..im so glad your mum is feeling a lot better, and more like her old self..It will have been the water infection that was leaving her feeling awful and also halucinating, (and talking broken biscuits!(not heard that saying before!)..its not very nice for us to see when they are like that either is it. so glad you have got somewhere, and hope shell be able to stand up and take a few steps soon,i know it takes longer for broken bones to heal in the elderly, and shell need some physiotherapy, but like you say, the best physio is probably doing her normal things at home,where she has her family for support, she might need a frame,or sticks at first for confidence ,but hopefully shell be mended very soon. oh, hope your doing well too!?, your soup sounds lovely, ill take a trip to asda! x

Cheers Gillian, I thought the same about the infection, but then read the symptoms of dehydration on the NHS website

dry mouth (xerostomia),

* chapped or dry lips,

* dry eyes,dry,

* loose skin with a lack of elasticity,

* sunken features, particularly the eyes (enophthalmos),

* clammy hands and feet,

* headaches,

* light-headedness,

* dizziness,

* tiredness,

* confusion and irritability,

* loss of appetite,

she had nearly all of those symptoms, as well as vomiting which is another symptom.

I am appalled that it could have been sorted out so much sooner, if we hadnt been fobbed off with 'its because she has had major surgery'

I'm going to the hospital soon, I cant wait to see her, I hope she's still back to her normal self.

xxxx

U dont look big at all in your pics x :laugh:

Ah, well I cheated! My profile picture is about 2 1/2 years old and three stone lighter! If you look at the other photos, say the walk to the windmills, I tagged myself on a photo, it's mostly around my belly but it's spreading! I'm a size 20/22.

Fatpants

hi fatpants or should i say cheat!! fancy putting old photos on lol, u still look good in them x

Hi vanessa to save you coming to far off the A55 do you want me to meet you in one of the service stations, then i'll drive and it'll give you a break from driving for a couple of hours.. it'll be a long drive for you x

Isn't it terrible, just to receive normal patient care someone has to complain. I am so glad to hear your Mum is doing better now. For her to have improved so quickly they probably gave here antibiotics aswell as saline solution through the drip, that would help the infection she had, which would have been causing her to be hilucinating, or not all there for want of better words! I am really relieved for you, but still be strong at the meeting because you want this care to continue.

Take care

Fatpants

Having read your concerns and insults at nurses and drs. looking after your mother and lets face it thousands of others needing attention... why dont you spare a thought for the over worked, under staffed and totally exhausted nurses who according to you are not quite frankly doing their jobs properly.... its is my opinion, that if relatives are so concerned at the lack of hydration or nutrition of family that they should attend at meal times and feed their relatives.. that way ensuring proper care.... as you so put it!!!...

MY advice... try spending a couple of days working your socks off on a busy ward, listening to insults and see how you like it!!!.. my guess is not a lot...!!