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Has Your Circle of Friends Changed After Weight Loss Surgery?



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Weight loss surgery leads to all kinds of changes. They can affect each other and may end up affecting your social in various ways for various reasons. You may end up changing your circle of friends and social habits.

One common reason is simple: it is your change in eating habits. You are no longer interested in meeting up for coffee and Bagels, a multi-course dinner, or Friday night at the bar. You may cut ties or limit interactions with friends if your entire relationship revolves around unhealthy eating and drinking.

Another reason might be the changes that take place inside you throughout the weight loss surgery journey. You might gain confidence and be more sensitive to who is really looking out for your health, and who is not. You might choose to hang out with healthier or more supportive friends instead of old eating buddies who are afraid you are going to leave them in the dust when it comes to getting healthy.

Sometimes, you can keep your old friends. They may be willing to meet for a walk instead of lunch, or you can order coffee and skip the doughnuts. You might also pick up new friends who share your new interests in losing weight and working out, for example.

So, have you changed your social habits after weight loss surgery? How?

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My circle of friends didn't change at all. Maybe because I never had what is often referred to as "eating buddies" on here and gatherings were never solely or mostly about food.

Anyway, I still can meet people for coffee and/or something to eat. I can still meet people for lunch. I just eat a smaller portion and take left overs with me if the food was good.

You might also pick up new friends who share your new interests in losing weight and working out, for example.

Honestly? No, thanks.

I don't want to pick up new friends whose lives revolve around losing weight, healthy nutrition and working out. I want friends that are less obsessed than I am with this part of life and keep me sane.

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Definitely. Some of my friends have remained the same whether they knew i had surgery or not.

But i have definitely lost a few because i'm getting smaller and healthier. And that's perfectly fine with me. They were just dead weight anyway.

Since having my surgery i've made friends with tons of new people who have also had wls and it's just a better feeling. I can actually relate to them.

One of my really good friends from the past still hangs out with me and she loves to go out to eat. We still do, but she respects that fact that i only eat certain healthy foods now and she's been fine with it.

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My circle has not changed due to the surgery. I feel that my friends don't feel that I have not changed other than the fact that I have shrunk in size.

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One of my friends urged me to do the surgery. The others are seeing the results and are happy. I don't think I'll be changing friends anytime soon.. :D

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My circle has widened. Not only do I have all of my old friends, I've made some great new ones in my Tae Kwon Do classes.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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