Spouse issues ?

[Army's girl 4]

You're describing a situation that has many variations and isn't uncommon around here. What you left out is whether he has been taking Cookies to bed and bringing home two-by-two Snacks only since your surgery. If that's the case, he's absolutely sending a message. You might want to ask him to put it into words so that you know what's going on in your marriage. Often the underminer fears losing the spouse once he/she seems to have better options. That's just one of the usual possibilities. If he claims to being nothing more than funny, you can remind him that nothing is funny after the 28th time.

If he was in the junk-food-for-two habit before you ever thought of surgery, nothing has changed. You can sweetly ask him not to munch in your face until you have a good handle on your new way of eating, but it's tough to make it a demand. The general rule of the real world is that the one who makes the change or is the minority is the one who has to adjust to everyone else's carrying on as usual.

EXCELLENT explanation!!

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[Dub 10,017]

So many issues can be avoided through a simple conversation.

[504chic 53]

My husband is very supportive. He is trying to encourage me to try to eat the puréed food but I really can't take that much in. He is worried I'm not getting in enough. So I told him I am going to rink more Protein. I have to admit he does come in the room with big bowls of nachos cheese mixed with chili and chip. It sounds good when he crunches on it but I have to taste for it. He asked me if I wanted some of the chili and cheese. I told him I was not in the mood for any. Then he asked what was I going to do once I heal. I said have to stay prepared with foods I can have

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[zizi_tops 60]

I think he's just trying to be nice. I would nicely say, next time you stop by to grab a shake, can you get me a greek yogurt or maybe a Vitamin Water. Just ask for a healthier alternative. My husband is "naturally" thin as well and whenever he picks up dinner or Snacks, I'll ask for something healthy and we eat together. It's not about what we eat, but about us sitting down to eat together as a family.