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There is an ignore button, as has already been mentioned. It is not like blocking people on Facebook, where they virtually cease to exist. You will still see that someone you have ignored has posted, and then that itch of curiosity starts in. What did they write? Did they mention my name? I have to know! So you end up reading it anyway.

Of course, by now you may have found the ignore button, and aren't seeing any of this. ;-)

Yes, I do wish it worked like FB where you can't see them and more importantly, they can't see you. I think that would stop a LOT of issues.

That said, I don't click on the names of people I ignore 99% of the time. What would be the point?

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Haven't seen anything too bad since joining... I guess I'm in the right forums...lol.

Or you're not overly sensitive and looking to be offended when you ask for justification to eat tacos 45 minutes post op. :D

Everyone knows that it isn't safe to eat taco's 45 minutes post op; you need to wait 1 hour.

That's swimming. No SWIMMING for an hour post op.

I never go swimming while eating tacos, so that's not a problem for me.

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Haven't seen anything too bad since joining... I guess I'm in the right forums...lol.

Or you're not overly sensitive and looking to be offended when you ask for justification to eat tacos 45 minutes post op. :D

Everyone knows that it isn't safe to eat taco's 45 minutes post op; you need to wait 1 hour.

That's swimming. No SWIMMING for an hour post op.

I never go swimming while eating tacos, so that's not a problem for me.

If you go swimming while eating tacos, you can have your own jacuzzi. ;-)

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Haven't seen anything too bad since joining... I guess I'm in the right forums...lol.

Or you're not overly sensitive and looking to be offended when you ask for justification to eat tacos 45 minutes post op. :D

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Haven't seen anything too bad since joining... I guess I'm in the right forums...lol.

Or you're not overly sensitive and looking to be offended when you ask for justification to eat tacos 45 minutes post op. :D

Everyone knows that it isn't safe to eat taco's 45 minutes post op; you need to wait 1 hour.

They could be soft tacos. :P

could you pureeeeee said taco and drink it...does that count as liquid........ JK..... LMAO

That early in the game, it is going to be pureed on the way in or the way out. There's no getting around it.

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I agree with you. I read through a few things that I thought was tacky behavior. I say ignore them and let's see where they are in a year . No one likes a bad attitude as that makes for an UGLY person no matter how much weight you lose.

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Some people are blunt but some others are just mean.

The way I look at it is take it all in a positive way, even if it is to show you how not to be.

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Hw 260

Sw 255

Cw 201

Sleeved August 17, 2016

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I'm blocking all of you guys!!!!

:P

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Some people are blunt but some others are just mean.

The way I look at it is take it all in a positive way, even if it is to show you how not to be.

Sent from my iPhone

Hw 260

Sw 255

Cw 201

Sleeved August 17, 2016

I like that very much....

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Some people are blunt but some others are just mean.

The way I look at it is take it all in a positive way, even if it is to show you how not to be.

Sent from my iPhone

Hw 260

Sw 255

Cw 201

Sleeved August 17, 2016

I like that very much....

I like it too.

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Thanks for all of you who chimed in with advise and instructions. Even though I read many posts about tacos, surprisingly I'm not craving any now. LOL I'll learn to ignore and just get out of a thread. I do my best to not post/ask anything that seems it would start something up, because there are a lot of mean people and they like to hide behind a computer. Bet they wouldn't be so forth coming in our faces! I was just upset by someone who wanted to vent and shared her experience only to get attacked about it. It was her experience--nothing that none of us should have said anything BUT encouragements towards or constructive criticism in the nicest way.

"Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die" mean folks are only hurting themselves.

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@

Just going to throw this out there...

First, I have no idea the scenerio or the players that you are referring to, so I am definitely not taking your words personally.

I will tell you that I, personally, am the exact same in person as I am behind my computer. I don't curse at people, I don't call names, but I am fairly blunt and opinionated. I am not a warm and fuzzy person by nature so while my intent may be genuinely caring, some people take me as too direct or harsh.

Please remember that you cannot read tone on the internet. What you want to interpret as an "attack" may well have been meant as constructive criticism. What you take as nice, might be what others take as pandering. I can honestly say that what you've communicated as your desires above on these boards would deter me.

I don't always want encouragement, especially if I make a bad choice. I don't want or need "in the nicest way" because at times, I really need a kick in the pants. I prefer someone tell me how it is rather than patronize to my feelz.

I rarely consider people "mean" because a stranger's words on the internet do not affect me personally. The only time they seriously p!ss me off is when they start in with name calling and personal attacks towards others. I seriously don't even care if they are calling ME names. I find that humorous and very telling of their character.

We are all very different in the way we communicate AND in the way we interpret. I rarely block and I rarely report. I appreciate disagreements, banter and debate. It's how **I** learn and grow.

Once it gets PERSONAL, the problem starts and the blocking begins.

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In most ways, I'm a lot like @@LipstickLady - I'm blunt and direct, and I don't pussyfoot around.

I'm also logical and dispassionate (which serves me excellently in my avocation). This frequently puts me at odds with drama queens who are ruled by their feelings and little else. Oh well, tough titty.

And I don't believe in personal attacks... until you attack me. Then it's gloves off, *choose your expletive*.

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

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In most ways, I'm a lot like @@LipstickLady - I'm blunt and direct, and I don't pussyfoot around.

I'm also logical and dispassionate (which serves me excellently in my avocation). This frequently puts me at odds with drama queens who are ruled by their feelings and little else. Oh well, tough titty.

And I don't believe in personal attacks... until you attack me. Then it's gloves off, *choose your expletive*.

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

Yup. But I still do it without the name calling and expletives because I am a lady. :D

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In most ways, I'm a lot like @@LipstickLady - I'm blunt and direct, and I don't pussyfoot around.

I'm also logical and dispassionate (which serves me excellently in my avocation). This frequently puts me at odds with drama queens who are ruled by their feelings and little else. Oh well, tough titty.

And I don't believe in personal attacks... until you attack me. Then it's gloves off, *choose your expletive*.

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

Yup. But I still do it without the name calling and expletives because I am a lady. :D

The power of names! ;-)

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@ Just going to throw this out there...First, I have no idea the scenerio or the players that you are referring to, so I am definitely not taking your words personally. I will tell you that I, personally, am the exact same in person as I am behind my computer. I don't curse at people, I don't call names, but I am fairly blunt and opinionated. I am not a warm and fuzzy person by nature so while my intent may be genuinely caring, some people take me as too direct or harsh.Please remember that you cannot read tone on the internet. What you want to interpret as an "attack" may well have been meant as constructive criticism. What you take as nice, might be what others take as pandering. I can honestly say that what you've communicated as your desires above on these boards would deter me.I don't always want encouragement, especially if I make a bad choice. I don't want or need "in the nicest way" because at times, I really need a kick in the pants. I prefer someone tell me how it is rather than patronize to my feelz. I rarely consider people "mean" because a stranger's words on the internet do not affect me personally. The only time they seriously p!ss me off is when they start in with name calling and personal attacks towards others. I seriously don't even care if they are calling ME names. I find that humorous and very telling of their character.We are all very different in the way we communicate AND in the way we interpret. I rarely block and I rarely report. I appreciate disagreements, banter and debate. It's how **I** learn and grow. Once it gets PERSONAL, the problem starts and the blocking begins.

. Pretty sure she is talking about the thread on being treated terribly by a restaurant...that one surprised me too with the way it went...

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