I'm really considering keeping my whole surgery a secret from everyone except my partner ( who is supportive ).

I have a lot of feelings of embarrassment and shame about Bariatric surgery because I was very active in the fat acceptance and the health at every size communities in the past. I still believe that fat people can be active and healthy and definitely that fat people have innate worth.

But I want to lose weight none the less. I want this surgery and I want to feel comfortable and appropriate in my own body. I want to be lighter and smaller for health and other reasons.

But there is a stigma to this surgery. Have you experienced any negative feedback from peers? Have you dealt with feelings of embarrassment of shame about your surgery? Do you selectively not tell people?

I mean, I hope I'll drop about 100lbs and I suspect people will ask how I did it. I don't want to lie. I kind of just want no one to notice at all.

Thanks for your input.

@@JuniperBug, I hope you can hate the packaging a little less. She's how the vibrant, engaged person you are gets around during the course of the day. You don't need me to tell you that there are reasons for the packaging. Ready or not, she is part of you and, for that reason, deserving of respect and love. Love her always because she is the one who will give birth to her replacement.

(I'll tell you now that, when you lose enough weight so that it really shows and the people you have chosen not to tell about surgery ask, say no more than your decision to eat better and exercise. That's the absolute truth -- so easy because it leaves you having to remember nothing.)

Edited December 20, 20169 yr by WLSResources/ClothingExch

@@JuniperBug, I hope you can hate the packaging a little less. She's how the vibrant, engaged person you are gets around during the course of the day. You don't need me to tell you that there are reasons for the packaging. Ready or not, she is part of you and, for that reason, deserving of respect and love. Love her always because she is the one who will give birth to her replacement.

Wow that was so poetic and beautiful. Thank you so much. I'm truly touched.

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I didn't tell people because I don't care about their opinions. Telling people invites them to comment and I don't care. No one lives my life but me.

Healthy fat people are a ticking time bomb. They are healthy until they aren't anymore and then they tank fast.