I started at 376, I am now 335 and my surgeon is requiring that I lose six more over Thanksgiving for a Dec 1 appt, and at least ten more during the two week diet or he will cancel surgery. I have already spent 30K on fulfilling his requirements so I can't stop now. The surgery will be another 19K. I have been working towards this since February and have been struggling. I inspect food service facilities all day every work day. I have gotten the "you must not want this enough" and my day is ruled by the scale (am required to weigh daily) and I get so stressed out over it all. Reading through here it seems most at my weight aren't required to lose this much. I am self pay so it isn't due to insurance requirements. Any insight?

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Thank You for your support ... Weighed in 2 hours that will be the deciding factor

@militaryma Let us know how it goes! Fingers crossed for you!!!

Starting weight 367

CW 335

Sleeve scheduled for Dec. 19, 2016

If they are making you feel bad about your weight, even to the point of "punishing" you for not losing enough, I would urge you to review your options for going elsewhere. I know you have invested a lot in them, but your health and safety is worth MORE than money. If your surgery is judgmental and unsympathetic now, how can you trust him to cut your insides? :-(

If you find a better bariatric center who treats you with the RESPECT you DESERVE, you ought to be able to transfer your records and test results over. Transferring records between hospitals is commonplace, so it you shouldn't lose the money you spent.

Years ago I had my first surgery. She did not seem to care about me or really hear my concerns, but I went ahead with it. It was a disaster. She did open surgery and I found out later that it was totally UNNECESSARY -- my surgery could have been laparoscopic. She lied about the size of my tumor to justify open surgery but I got the actual dimensions from the lab report. The reason I had to get the lab report myself directly is because we were on pins and needles for TWO WEEKS about whether my tumor was cancerous or benign. It was an agonizing, emotional wait. Every few days I called for an update. Finally a medical assistant who knew that I had called five times and knew that my messages had been passed to the surgeon with no response suggested that I contact the lab directly for results. Turns out the lab sent my surgeon the report IN ONE DAY after surgery that my tumor was benign! All that anguish for two weeks was needless! I called and complained to her clinic manager! And I had horrible complications, horrible time healing, horrible string of infections and I spent a month in the wound care center almost daily for my HUGE incision which never fully healed and they finally had to patch it.

The moral of the story: vet your surgeon CAREFULLY and if they break your trust, *run!*. When my surgeon constantly delayed and broke appointments and didn't listen to me or treat me with respect, those were the warning signs that I ignored.

No amount of money is worth jeopardizing your health. If you are being treated that badly, consider going elsewhere. And complaining to the manager about it also...

Best of luck to you, you are obviously smart, determined and committed. I'm sure you will have great success in the end

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I don't have to lose any weight I'm just not allowed to gain weight.

Thank you BettyG, you make a good point.

Starting weight 367

CW 335

Sleeve scheduled for Dec. 19, 2016

I just wanted to add that I did a better job vetting my surgeon for my next two surgeries, both of which went quite well. Both surgeons were very supportive and professional.

And now when I decided to do bariatric surgery, my first step was to research bariatric centers and bariatric surgeons. I was leaning towards the clinic/surgeon that are a part of the regional healthcare system that I have used for all of my primary doctor and specialists for the last 6 years. BUT.... I wasn't impressed with the surgeon. He had a bad review on this site. And he was only board certified in general surgery. So I chose a clinic/surgeon in a whole different regional healthcare system -- which meant some of my records had to be transferred over. Well worth it. Both surgeons are board certified in not only general surgery but also bariatric surgery. And they both have done a fellowship in bariatric surgery which is very unique! I met with the surgeon who will do my gastric bypass and I was immediately impressed by her skill, professionalism, and compassion. She listened to me and treated me with respect. I was delighted to find out that she is the only female bariatric surgeon in my state who has done a fellowship in bariatric surgery. I'm convinced I've found the best option for me -- the staff of the bariatric center are wonderful!

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Edited December 8, 20169 yr by BettyG

@@BettyG Yes, I have certainly learned a lot that I will take into account the next time I need a surgeon for sure. I'm still hoping for the best. I'm so so close!

Starting weight 367

CW 335

Sleeve scheduled for Dec. 19, 2016