Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Recommended Posts

At this point I would try to find myself a support group or a professional you can talk to. most of this game is changing the way we think, not just how we eat.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I'm 8days post op now. No one ever told me the regret I'd feel. All I wanna to do is eat. food was my comfort and now I don't know how to comfort myself! Advice??

Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I'd recommend you to write a love letter for yourself.

Be honest and write everything that you remember why you did it.

Why you doing this.

- Mine included the fact of being so embarrassing asking in the restaurant for a table instead of a booth ...

- My back pain, etc, Etc.

so, I hope that helps and try to keep you mind busy. Go out and walk! Make it confortable to your journey.

Good luck

Sent from my iPhone

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I'm still pre-op and I am well aware of what I am doing. What kind of program did you go through? They didn't discuss what changes you would need to make? These are things I am trying to change now before surgery. I am expecting to feel miserable right after as well since it's a shock to the system, but once I embrace my choice and know this is a lifetime commitment, I am sure I will wonder why I didn't do it sooner. Best of luck to you and hopefully this will pass. I suggest seeking a therapist to help you get to the bottom of your food issues.

Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I'm still pre-op and I am well aware of what I am doing. What kind of program did you go through? They didn't discuss what changes you would need to make? These are things I am trying to change now before surgery. I am expecting to feel miserable right after as well since it's a shock to the system, but once I embrace my choice and know this is a lifetime commitment, I am sure I will wonder why I didn't do it sooner. Best of luck to you and hopefully this will pass. I suggest seeking a therapist to help you get to the bottom of your food issues.

Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

They told me what I was going to change. It's not as easy for me as it is for you it seems. I hope you don't have to feel the regret some of us do

Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

Edited by markiealex

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I'm 8days post op now. No one ever told me the regret I'd feel. All I wanna to do is eat. food was my comfort and now I don't know how to comfort myself! Advice??

Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I'd recommend you to write a love letter for yourself.

Be honest and write everything that you remember why you did it.

Why you doing this.

- Mine included the fact of being so embarrassing asking in the restaurant for a table instead of a booth ...

- My back pain, etc, Etc.

so, I hope that helps and try to keep you mind busy. Go out and walk! Make it confortable to your journey.

Good luck

Sent from my iPhone

Thank you! I'll give it a try!

Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I'm still pre-op and I am well aware of what I am doing. What kind of program did you go through? They didn't discuss what changes you would need to make? These are things I am trying to change now before surgery. I am expecting to feel miserable right after as well since it's a shock to the system, but once I embrace my choice and know this is a lifetime commitment, I am sure I will wonder why I didn't do it sooner. Best of luck to you and hopefully this will pass. I suggest seeking a therapist to help you get to the bottom of your food issues.

Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

They told me what I was going to change. It's not as easy for me as it is for you it seems. I hope you don't have to feel the regret some of us do

Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I'm in no way saying it's easy. I haven't even gotten there yet. All I'm saying is that I am trying to do everything I can ahead of time to prepare. Whether that be making sure I have the best support team or getting counseling. I am aware that all the preparation in the world may still not help me once I am actually where you are today. But do know there are great people on here who have been there and can give out wonderful advice.

Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I'm still pre-op and I am well aware of what I am doing. What kind of program did you go through? They didn't discuss what changes you would need to make? These are things I am trying to change now before surgery. I am expecting to feel miserable right after as well since it's a shock to the system, but once I embrace my choice and know this is a lifetime commitment, I am sure I will wonder why I didn't do it sooner. Best of luck to you and hopefully this will pass. I suggest seeking a therapist to help you get to the bottom of your food issues.

Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

They told me what I was going to change. It's not as easy for me as it is for you it seems. I hope you don't have to feel the regret some of us do

Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I'm in no way saying it's easy. I haven't even gotten there yet. All I'm saying is that I am trying to do everything I can ahead of time to prepare. Whether that be making sure I have the best support team or getting counseling. I am aware that all the preparation in the world may still not help me once I am actually where you are today. But do know there are great people on here who have been there and can give out wonderful advice.

Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I would echo some of the others and also suggest speaking to a professional. The biggest part of this journey, to me, is re-establishing your relationship with food. I used my six-month insurance-required pre-op diet to do that, and I am so glad that I did. Aside from the huge pre-op weight loss that I had, that diet program gave me the time to get my mind in the right place, and that has made all the difference in this post-op transition. (I say this more for the benefit of those reading who are pre-op. In your case, what's done is done and talking to a professional will be your best bet to playing catch up.)

Good luck!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I'm still pre-op and I am well aware of what I am doing. What kind of program did you go through? They didn't discuss what changes you would need to make? These are things I am trying to change now before surgery. I am expecting to feel miserable right after as well since it's a shock to the system, but once I embrace my choice and know this is a lifetime commitment, I am sure I will wonder why I didn't do it sooner. Best of luck to you and hopefully this will pass. I suggest seeking a therapist to help you get to the bottom of your food issues.

Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

They told me what I was going to change. It's not as easy for me as it is for you it seems. I hope you don't have to feel the regret some of us do

Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I'm in no way saying it's easy. I haven't even gotten there yet. All I'm saying is that I am trying to do everything I can ahead of time to prepare. Whether that be making sure I have the best support team or getting counseling. I am aware that all the preparation in the world may still not help me once I am actually where you are today. But do know there are great people on here who have been there and can give out wonderful advice.

Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I'm still pre-op and I am well aware of what I am doing. What kind of program did you go through? They didn't discuss what changes you would need to make? These are things I am trying to change now before surgery. I am expecting to feel miserable right after as well since it's a shock to the system, but once I embrace my choice and know this is a lifetime commitment, I am sure I will wonder why I didn't do it sooner. Best of luck to you and hopefully this will pass. I suggest seeking a therapist to help you get to the bottom of your food issues.

Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

They told me what I was going to change. It's not as easy for me as it is for you it seems. I hope you don't have to feel the regret some of us do

Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I'm in no way saying it's easy. I haven't even gotten there yet. All I'm saying is that I am trying to do everything I can ahead of time to prepare. Whether that be making sure I have the best support team or getting counseling. I am aware that all the preparation in the world may still not help me once I am actually where you are today. But do know there are great people on here who have been there and can give out wonderful advice.

Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I'm pretty much doing this on my own. No one has real faith in me so it makes it harder. I have gotten great advice since I found this app

Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I'm still pre-op and I am well aware of what I am doing. What kind of program did you go through? They didn't discuss what changes you would need to make? These are things I am trying to change now before surgery. I am expecting to feel miserable right after as well since it's a shock to the system, but once I embrace my choice and know this is a lifetime commitment, I am sure I will wonder why I didn't do it sooner. Best of luck to you and hopefully this will pass. I suggest seeking a therapist to help you get to the bottom of your food issues.

Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

They told me what I was going to change. It's not as easy for me as it is for you it seems. I hope you don't have to feel the regret some of us do

Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I'm in no way saying it's easy. I haven't even gotten there yet. All I'm saying is that I am trying to do everything I can ahead of time to prepare. Whether that be making sure I have the best support team or getting counseling. I am aware that all the preparation in the world may still not help me once I am actually where you are today. But do know there are great people on here who have been there and can give out wonderful advice.

Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I'm still pre-op and I am well aware of what I am doing. What kind of program did you go through? They didn't discuss what changes you would need to make? These are things I am trying to change now before surgery. I am expecting to feel miserable right after as well since it's a shock to the system, but once I embrace my choice and know this is a lifetime commitment, I am sure I will wonder why I didn't do it sooner. Best of luck to you and hopefully this will pass. I suggest seeking a therapist to help you get to the bottom of your food issues.

Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

They told me what I was going to change. It's not as easy for me as it is for you it seems. I hope you don't have to feel the regret some of us do

Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I'm in no way saying it's easy. I haven't even gotten there yet. All I'm saying is that I am trying to do everything I can ahead of time to prepare. Whether that be making sure I have the best support team or getting counseling. I am aware that all the preparation in the world may still not help me once I am actually where you are today. But do know there are great people on here who have been there and can give out wonderful advice.

Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I'm pretty much doing this on my own. No one has real faith in me so it makes it harder. I have gotten great advice since I found this app

Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Well you're not alone now this is a great place for support! We all want to see each other succeed!

Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Read, exercise and visit friends. Because if u eat wrong stuff, u will be so sick. I ate a little lasanga a week out of hospital. I hurt so bad I will never eat lasanga again. Don't eat wrong stuff. The pain and throwing up is not worth it.

Sent from my SM-G360T1 using the BariatricPal App

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Read, exercise and visit friends. Because if u eat wrong stuff, u will be so sick. I ate a little lasanga a week out of hospital. I hurt so bad I will never eat lasanga again. Don't eat wrong stuff. The pain and throwing up is not worth it.

Sent from my SM-G360T1 using the BariatricPal App

Thank you! It's hard cause like I said I'm alone. I don't have friends and really have no support

Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I'm 8days post op now. No one ever told me the regret I'd feel. All I wanna to do is eat. food was my comfort and now I don't know how to comfort myself! Advice??

Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I think what you are feeling is very common. If food has been your primary means of coping with stress then since you cannot use food to cope you may feel very uncomfortable.

Talking with a counselor or therapist is a great strategy. Attending support group meetings and participating on BariatricPal can also be helpful.

Also, you may want to consider Overeaters Anonymous. You can find meeting lists and other resources (like podcasts) online at OA.org.

In the meantime, see if you can find other things to do when you want to eat: take a walk, journal, color, call a friend, etc.

Focus on getting in your Protein and Fluid. Early out, I spent so much time sipping I really never has time to get hungry.

It will get better.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

First of all, here's a virtual hug ????

I feel your pain. The early days right after surgery, I fought thoughts of what the hell did I just do. Water didn't sit well, couldn't drink any shakes, and had an unrelated infection. It got better.

I haven't really wanted to eat yet. I just know my sugar dropping so I need a few bites to keep me going.

I'm only 4 weeks out. I am 30 lbs down in that time which spurs me on. I felt better around the end of week 2.

See if you can find a local support group that can help.

Hugs,again and I hope you feel better soon

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • LeighaTR

      I am new here today... and only two weeks out from my sleeve surgery on the 23rd. I am amazed I have kept my calories down to 467 today so far... that leaves me almost 750 left for dinner and maybe a snack. This is going to be tough for two weeks... but I have to believe I can do it!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Doughgurl

      Hey everyone. I'm new here so I thought I should introduce myself. I am 53y/o and am scheduled for Gastric Bypass on June 25th, 2025. I'm located in San Antonio, Texas. I will be having my surgery in Tiajuana Mexico. I've wanted this for years, but I always had insurance where bariatric procedures were excluded. Finally I am able to afford to pay out of pocket.  I can't wait to get started, and I hope I'm prepared for the initial period of "hell". I know what I have signed up for, but I'm sure the good to come will out way the temporary period of discomfort and feelings of regret. I'd love to find people to talk to who have been through the same procedure or experience before. So I look forward to meeting you all. Hope you have a great week!
      · 1 reply
      1. Selina333

        I'm so happy for you! You are about to change your life. I was so glad to get the sleeve done in Dec. I didn't have feelings of regret overall. And I'm down almost 60 lbs. I do feel a little sad at restaurants. I can barely eat half a kid's meal. I get adults meals often because kid ones don't have the same offerings at times. Then I feel obligated to eat on that until it's gone and that can be days. So the restaurant thing isn't great for me. All the rest is fine by me! I love feeling full with very little. I do wish I could drink when eating. And will sip at the end. Just a strong habit to stop. But I'm working on it! You will do fine! Just keep focused on your desire to be different. Not better or worse. But different. I am happy both ways but my low back doesn't like me that heavy. So I listened (also my feet!). LOL! Update us on your journey! I'm not far from you. I'm in Houston. Good luck and I hope it all goes smoothly! Would love to see pics of the town you go to for this. I've never been there. Neat you will be traveling for this! Enjoy the journey. Take it one day at a time. Sometimes a few hours at a time. Follow all recommendations as best you can. 💗

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. LeighaTR

        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

    • CaseyP1011

      Officially here for a long time, not just a good time💪
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×