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Is it normal to get cold feet?

I started my sleeve research over a year ago and never thought it would be possible For a few months I talked to people about it but then found out that my insurance wouldn't cover it and just kind of gave up.

I found out recently that I've developed some mild health problems due to my weight and after a long talk with my husband we decided to spend the money for the sleeve. I had my first appt in early August and since then have been doing the necessary blood tests/doctors appointments, etc.

Well as of today they officially have all my paperwork. I go in for the nutrition class on Wednesday and then the following Tuesday I have my pre op consultation with the surgeon. She said we're likely looking at a surgery date of early October.

All the sudden I find myself terrified and wondering if this is too "extreme". I have struggled with my weight for years. It makes me depressed and now it's affecting my health, but I'm so scared that I'll do it and something will go wrong, or I'll hate it and not be able to reverse it. It just feels so REAL all of the sudden! I know that I can lose this weight on my own, because I've done it about 10 times before. So I know that I'll end up right back here in a year still being unhealthy and depressed and possibly even heavier like I am with almost every regain.

I know that everyone is different and no one can make this choice for me, I'm just wondering if others went through the same emotions?

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Doubts are normal. Good to give them a voice instead of stuffing them down. I have struggled my whole life up, down, up, down and I had an aha moment one day when my weight was way higher than it had ever been. High blood pressure, prediabetes, and bad knees were going to eventually take me down and at 58, I realized I wanted to totally enjoy the rest of my life. Losing the weight and keeping it off was essential so I decided to have a consultation. I also have a good friend who had surgery and she has been a great coach.

Doubts crept in but so did excitement. Soon the excitement took over and I've never looked back. I love my sleeve for so many reasons. Am 2.5 months out.

Know your reasons you decided to do this and if it is not quite right for you yet, well, that's OK too! Have faith in yourself.

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It’s absolutely perfectly normal to get cold feet! WLS is a HUGE deal! Some patients are lucky enough to be absolutely sure that WLS is the right choice for them, but most patients have some doubts.

Now, just because it’s normal to have doubts does NOT mean you should ignore them! You are not committed to surgery until you are under anesthesia. Take all the time you need to think about it. You can reconsider things you may have dismissed before but now seem more important because they’re more real. Or, once you go over your fears again, you might decide (again) that they’re not important compared to the benefits of getting surgery.

Take your time, and make your own decision. Gather information, but don’t let anyone pressure you either way. Good luck!

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