Okay, so I've been heavily looking at the Angeles Hospital in Tijuana Mexico. I only felt safe telling a close friend about this but she is just not supportive. In the beginning I planned for her and I to go together. We hadn't seen each other in several years since I moved away. We are both young 22 year olds and have been in contact over the years just never met up. I should add that we have been friends since we were 7. Like most people we often had our differences but never saw eye to eye. Still we were there for each other. This situation has really bought our friendship to a tipping point.

At first I was fine with her not being supportive. I said I would travel alone which I read many people do. However this morning she texted me and asked who I was bringing and I said no one. She proceeded to call me stubborn and say it's dangerous and I need to bring someone. I'm not afraid at all I feel okay about the situation and told her that she was pretty much causing stress that's not needed especially if I feel okay. I tried to explain to her that there would be someone who picks me up directly from the airport and that the surgery is in a hospital and that most importantly I feel safe with my decision. But that wasn't good enough for HER. She basically told me that it's on me but she's not discussing the situation anymore. I told her that if she isn't willing to stick with me the whole way through and important decision in my life that she thinks is something I should be cautious of then maybe there's not point in speaking with her at all.

I feel so confused. I don't get it. She thought I wasn't trying to hear her out but I was and I tried to reassure her I'd be fine and I feel okay. I feel like if she really wants me to be safe and okay she would try to keep tabs through out the journey. The only reason I opted to go alone was because SHE didn't feel safe going with me. I feel a little hurt that I now have no one to support me through this. It's something I really really want to do as the weight keeps piling on through the years. I'm only 22 and I've literally never lived my teenage or previous years happy and comfortable with my body and I've finally found something I think will get me started on that path. I just need some reassurance or support. Hopefully I can find it here.

I went to Mexico twice for surgery and never felt alone. It is very safe. You will be taken care of better than in the US.

I've had to deal with my mother being unsupportive, so I totally understand! My best friend had surgery at Tijuana Bariatrics 5 months ago and she has done GREAT! She is my inspiration for doing this!

People tend to think it's crazy to go to Mexico, but it's not like we are going to a tent on a dirt road with docs that are holding rusty knives

They are hospitals that are very clean and the staff all speak English. An RN on the support group forum I use on FB said it was cleaner than the hospital she works at here in the US!

In the end, it's your body and your choice. I have told my mother that my obesity and diabetes is far more dangerous for me than having this surgery. She hasn't said another word about it since I said that. Stay strong and know that you have lots of support from people like myself! My surgery is in 29 days

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@@akapadster Awesome! What Doctor did you choose if you don't mind me asking?

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Marie1120 have you had your surgery yet? I am scheduled 8/16 at Angeles, my sister is going with me but would love to share her with you if the timing works.

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Thank you so much! I won't be having my surgery until around October. I currently work two jobs so I'm trying to make sure I give enough time in advance to get a week off from both jobs.

I chose Dr Vasquez since he did my bestie's surgery

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Well just wanted to update everyone. My surgery will be on the 10th of October. I'm giving myself time in advance to get everything sorted out. I'm getting very nervous as its only two months away!