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Question: How do you stop eating the foods that make you feel good?



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Congrats on your thinking! I think you are on the right path.

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Well you are right to ask these questions, so it's good that you are thinking. Weight loss surgery is a big help but it's not a silver bullet and as I recall about 1/3 of the people getting the sleeve gain their weight back (and/or don't lose much to begin with). So you need to have the right frame of mind. That's something that you need to do, no one else can do it for you. I can make a few suggestions that might help...

First of all, educate yourself on the consequences of being chronically overweight. Yeah, I know you've heard it before, but I mean read and understand all the gory details of: atherosclerosis, heart attack, stroke, congestive heart failure, kidney disease, liver disease, and later in life, worn out hips and knees, cognitive decline, dementia, alzheimer's disease. If you have a clear picture of the future if you don't change your ways, that should help you to do the right things.

Secondly, learn what to look for in food labels, and keep your mind open when you shop for groceries, and instead of buying the same old things every time you visit the supermarket, actively LOOK for healthy choices that you haven't tried before, that might still be palatable and reasonably convenient to make. Do some reading and experimenting with simple recipes for ways to cook veggies to make them more interesting and tasty, and to substitute fruit for Desserts. Learn to use turkey, chicken and fish where you you used to favor beef and pork and how to incorporate legumes into your diet. There are healthy choices that don't require a ton of work and do taste good, but you need to do some work to alter your awareness and habits. Asking questions like these is a good start, don't stop now! :-)

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We all were where you are. But I disagree with a lot of what has been said. This is based on my experience. You will only be able to eat small portions and you will eat nutritious food because you will feel like crap energy-wise if you don't. Your relationship with food is going to completely change. I have heard of people failing but honestly I don't see how. I was a huge binge eater. Food soothed me. I loved the rush of eating something that tasted good. Well guess what, that flew out the window after my surgery. In addition to the restriction, my sense of taste changed so much that many things, even Water, tasted horrible! The taste bud issue slowly disappeared for me after about 3 months but by then, my behaviors were totally changed out of necessity. This surgery was a miracle for me. I pray everyone is as happy with their outcome as I am. God bless and best wishes!

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I'm a veggie hater, too, but that doesn't mean I can't eat the veggies I do like. WLS helps because at first you won't feel hungry. On top of that, many favorite foods taste "different" and aren't as desirable.

That said, I am also an emotional eater. The best thing I did was to see a therapist who specialized in food issues. I didn't want to undergo major surgery and expend thousands of dollars without making darn certain I did everything possible to make this journey successful.

My therapist has helped me so much. I've learned to recognize when I turn to food to relieve stress or even plain boredom. I've identified the times when I'm likely to want food and to understand the underlying feeling/comfort I want. Knowing that, I've come up with several different things I can do other than eat.

You are not alone. You are not the only person who faces or has faced these challenges. The road is not easy, but it is well worth the travel.

ETA: It's possible your surgeon's office or NUT has a list of therapists used to dealing with weight issues. If money is a problem, your state/county might have a mental health department. The one in my town adjusts fees by what you can afford to pay. I can't recommend therapy enough for those of us who need it.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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