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You're not having "FAT" surgery are you?

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VSGMEPLZ26    90

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Today I went to my supervisor in order to put in my leave request for my surgery. If anyone is familiar with patient privacy laws then you know when doctors offices give you literature in reference to a procedure and its pretty general. When I took the paperwork to my supervisor "it" said "you are not having "FAT" surgery are you"? I almost cried, but I laughed it off and walked away. Has anyone ever had the same experience, I am pissed and don't know how to feel.

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Lizardlady    90

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Your supervisor sounds like a jerk and very immature. Grade school personality. I wouldn't let it bother you. Just remember that this surgery is for YOU not them. If you don't want to share then it's really none of his business.

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Pondlife    42

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On the plus side at least you could genuinely say no. Because who the heck would have fat surgery? Your supervisor is a twit. You did the right thing laughing it off. People like that just like to see that they have caused discomfort with their comments. You take that away from them they've got nothing. Best of luck with you surgery, good luck avoiding idiots.

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Deborah Bennett    81

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All I have to say, after your journey is on it's way, and your on your way to a new life. Maybe, you can leave this jerk in your rear view mirror. When your feeling better about yourself. I think you'll fine a whole lot of changes will come your way.

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VSGMEPLZ26    90

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Thank you all for the insight. I was pissed at first, but now I see why they say misery loves company.

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Carrieoak    19

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I'm sure the settlement will more than pay for your surgery.

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Deletemyacct    39

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Oh wow, that's so insensitive. Know you're doing whats best for you "it" can mind his own business. We get PTO at my job, dnt need to provide reasons for using them if u request them in a timely manner. If u provide a reason its for courtesy. I'm praying for a Sept sugery so i can request 2 weeks & its my bday month so no one will think anything of it.

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HopeandAgony    566

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I'm sure the settlement will more than pay for your surgery.

Exactly!

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rimmarrufo    44

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Today I went to my supervisor in order to put in my leave request for my surgery. If anyone is familiar with patient privacy laws then you know when doctors offices give you literature in reference to a procedure and its pretty general. When I took the paperwork to my supervisor "it" said "you are not having "FAT" surgery are you"? I almost cried, but I laughed it off and walked away. Has anyone ever had the same experience, I am pissed and don't know how to feel.

Ignore that idiot. People like that should not be in mamagement. That is littlerely harassment. You do what you have to do. It is about your health. If it continues go above that person and ask is there is someone else you can report to

.... I'm mad.....

Mrs. Marrufo Phone :)

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VSGMEPLZ26    90

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The agency that I work for is filled with imbecilic people that only got where they are because they knew someone. I digress, it cool because as long as I get my leave approval I'm good. And besides their not supposed to ask me what type of surgery I'm having anyway.

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shellyd88    463

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This person sounds like they need a surgery of their own ...a personality transplant...

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LACRACRA2    58

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I didn't tell my employer. I filled out my FMLA paperwork and so did the doctor office. They just put down surgery. No codes or reasons. My HR director called me the other day and stated I can't ask you what your surgery is, but I see who your doctor is (so I'm assuming she googled him) and I just need to know if insurance is paying or if this is considered cosmetic because we can't approve FMLA if it's cosmetic. All I responded with is that insurance is paying their 80% and I'm paying my 20%. She said okay that is all I needed. But it does kind of tick me off the way she said "but I see who your doctor is". I mean he does gallbladder & much more. I have been trying to diet, eat right and exercise since Jan and have done some good, so I'm just sticking with telling folks that. At this time.

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VSGMEPLZ26    90

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I didn't tell my employer. I filled out my FMLA paperwork and so did the doctor office. They just put down surgery. No codes or reasons. My HR director called me the other day and stated I can't ask you what your surgery is, but I see who your doctor is (so I'm assuming she googled him) and I just need to know if insurance is paying or if this is considered cosmetic because we can't approve FMLA if it's cosmetic. All I responded with is that insurance is paying their 80% and I'm paying my 20%. She said okay that is all I needed. But it does kind of tick me off the way she said "but I see who your doctor is". I mean he does gallbladder & much more. I have been trying to diet, eat right and exercise since Jan and have done some good, so I'm just sticking with telling folks that. At this time.

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Now that's hateful. People can be so dam# cruel. That was none of her business.

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      Soooo I am coming to a realization
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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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