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NeedaBreak4Me    1,755

NeedaBreak4Me
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Ohhhh [emoji22] i thought it was a "like" because you like like weirdos hehehe

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KindaFamiliar    3,867

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THAT was an "I like weirdos 'like'"...

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KindaFamiliar    3,867

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I'm 'like' that...

No, wait...

I like that...

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OKCPirate    5,323

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Before investing in an online membership check and see what the web traffic is to the site. This is a numbers game and without traffic you will see many fake and inactive accounts. http://www.alexa.com/

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OKCPirate    5,323

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@ thank you for that, I'm going to have to think of what to say! as soon as I do I'll post it.

Daveo you might want to check out the tips here http://theartofcharm.com/dating-tips/online-dating-advice-men/

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Daveo    485

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@@OKCPirate thank you, I am going to check that out. I really don't know what to say.

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CowgirlJane    14,261

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I thought that was a good article actually. The part on being positive is hugely important. I simply would not reply to someone full of negative statements like " women always want guys with money, so if you are a gold digger just pass me up " . Well I am the furthest from a gold digger, but I woukd pass him up for being such a tool.

The article did not touch on something important. Many men don't read what you wrote but answer based on looks and age. Well, I want to feel like there is some kind of compatibility. I am active and socially outgoing. ..the introvert who plays role playing games for fun is not a good match. There is someone for everyone but not everyone is a good match and I often felt guys just ignore this at times. Be genuine and if you like sky diving don't expect an agrophobic to be interested!

Finally, don't get discouraged so easily. Keep it light, have fun and no expectations. ..who knows you might meet a great woman; but don't get wrapped up in one too quickly.

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melbell2222    244

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A lot of people Ik around here met their man at 5ks or doing stuff outside like festivals and stuff or go to a handyman store throw watch out for married men. Here they like to use the online tools though. Just have fun and a man will come around :)

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Oak Park Lorena    162

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Ha! I love this! You are totally right about seeing the same people. I'm onto my 4th dating site after a hiatus and it's depressing to see many of the same faces. Maybe there's a parallel with the sleeve and online dating, you have to fail a lot before you succeed! Congrats to you and the hubby for finding one another :)

I met my husband on Craigslist. I kid you not. I did all, I mean all kinds of dating sites. I was tired of paying for dead ends. Sure I went on a lot of dates, but then I would see the same people on all of them. I felt like I was done. I said this is my last try for a long time. Sat down and wrote an online ad on Craigslist. Posted it in 3 close areas.

Met about 5 guys. Still didn't click with anyone. Got in close to 100 emails. Then my husband emailed me. I was on the fence to even reply back because his email was choppy. Kind of cute picture, but no sparks. Probably because I was calling it quits again. I later found out he used speech to text and it wasn't picking up the first word or two. Lol

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Oak Park Lorena    162

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@@OKCPirate thank you, I am going to check that out. I really don't know what to say.

Dave, I think one of the best messages to send a woman is one that picks up on a topic that they mention in their profile and asks a question about it. E.g., "I see you are a music lover, too, are you going to Lollapalooza this year." Something like that. It shows that you actually read their profile (which most guys simply don't, they are responding to pics), that you have something in common andyou're giving her something specific to respond to. A lot of the message I get just say "hi." Not the best conversation starter. We women do get flooded with loads of messages, the majorityof which fall into the "hi," or "I really like you're X (fill in body part here.)" It's not hard to stand out, in a good way, from those!

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