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I have a little rant about stupid insensitive people who don't know how to keep their mouth shut.

Why do people feel the need to tell you that you are fat...

Its like .... what!!! No way! I never knew i was overweight.. i got my stomach cut off because i thought i was thin! I dieted for years because i was bored! I have spent the last month eating like a mouse because i have nothing better to do!

I had the sleeve 4 weeks ago... and finally it is starting to show physically.. so i was feeling so good about myself.. until BAM!

Some idiot at work felt the need to mention that i was "chubby" and that i am lucky i don't hurt myself.

Mind you i am 5'7" and 216 pounds.. and a size 14... i thought i hold my weight really well.... even my surgeon said i don't look what i weigh...

I just wanted to punch this guy in the face.... grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

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oooooo. I'd have said - I bet I'm less likely to hurt myself being fat than you are to hurt yourself being stupid!

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Punch him in the face?

Nah. I could get on a flight and come down there and help you punch him in the balls.

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I so wanted to punch him in the face! I visually did in my head!

Its funny though.. this came from the skinniest lanky dude who has never probably weighed more than 120 pounds in his life...

I can't help thinking if he is this rude to me... what does he say to people who are much larger... if i wasnt so angry i would actually pity him for his arrogance

Edited by AussieGirl81

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Aww i love you guys!!!

At least someone understands how i am feeling!

Yes.. i agree... the face is probably not the most suitable area... kicking in the genital region sounds much more appealing

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What a pr$%k! My God - is he mentally challenged that he doesn't realize that's unacceptable?? That's something a 12 year old boy may say to a girl on the playground!

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I was gonna get involved in this until I saw mention of the 'genital region'...

I'm staying right away now...

I don't want my bits to inadvertently cop the wrath and scorn of a thousand angry, and possibly carb depleted, women..

Love yas...

Leavin' yas...

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I was gonna get involved in this until I saw mention of the 'genital region'...

I'm staying right away now...

I don't want my bits to inadvertently cop the wrath and scorn of a thousand angry, and possibly carb depleted, women..

Love yas...

Leavin' yas...

Haha we would never do that to you!!!

Unless you call someone fat!! Then its war!!

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I was gonna get involved in this until I saw mention of the 'genital region'...

I'm staying right away now...

I don't want my bits to inadvertently cop the wrath and scorn of a thousand angry, and possibly carb depleted, women..

Love yas...

Leavin' yas...

don't worry, no one here is interested in harming your bits. :)

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Assault is a perfectly acceptable response to an unkind word in these forums? How childish.

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

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Haha we would never do that to you!!!

Please don't speak for me.

:P

Assault is a perfectly acceptable response to an unkind word in these forums? How childish.

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

Oh good! A new friend with a sense of humor! :eye roll:

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@@LipstickLady

VSG or not....id so follow BP just for your sarcastic humor.

I LOVE IT!!!

Edited by Andrea72

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Assault is a perfectly acceptable response to an unkind word in these forums? How childish.

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

Are you taking what we say as literal?

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