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So I just "celebrated" my birthday this week and getting old sucks...it's not as fun to have a birthday anymore but being just five weeks post op and I didn't even get a birthday cake...no candles....no drinks.....no nothing. I know it's for the better but I'm a little disappointed my family didn't come up with some creative way to make it special. Or even get a cake just so I could have a bite. Really no big deal just had to get it off my chest!

My birthday was nine days post op. They decorated my Premier Protein shake lol but I know what you mean. I'm three weeks today my daughters bday today. Still scared to try slightest bite of anything not on "menu" plus I heard dumping sucks :(

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Yeah. It does get easier you are getting to the turning point where it all starts getting easier....I felt so much better and more comfortable with what I could and couldn't do starting at about week four.

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I was in the hospital having the surgery on mine but I had 3 birthday dinners and my last cake. Our anniversary was the very next week and we just went antique stores all over town until I was exhausted I was not out of surgery long. But he made it special and bought me tons of cool stuff.

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I've never understood the compulsion to "celebrate" birthdays, but really in this case it sounds like are pouting because your family couldn't read your mind.

Life's a lot simpler and less drama-filled when you actually communicate instead of demanding that everyone read your mind and throw tantrums when they can't. (How many marriages would that save?)

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

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I honestly think you're having more of an issue with the lack of normalcy around it. I think next year it will seem like things are more back to normal, and you may even get a cake, and even have a piece of said cake ;)

Happy Birthday!

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I've never understood the compulsion to "celebrate" birthdays, but really in this case it sounds like are pouting because your family couldn't read your mind.

Life's a lot simpler and less drama-filled when you actually communicate instead of demanding that everyone read your mind and throw tantrums when they can't. (How many marriages would that save?)

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

Thud.

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I honestly think you're having more of an issue with the lack of normalcy around it. I think next year it will seem like things are more back to normal, and you may even get a cake, and even have a piece of said cake ;)

Happy Birthday!

Yeah you're right! I'm over it now and I wasn't pouting like another member wrote just simply expressing my feelings and feeling frustrated at the assumptions of my family. Their "you can't have that" statements. It's all good. It's new to me and them so we are learning.

Thanks for your kind words.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
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