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I want to let everybody know that you need to thank your support person. I am a support person but I am also on my own rny journey. If you haven't hugged, thanked, or told your support person you love them please do now. Being a support person is hard. We watch the people we love be hurt, suffer, cry, and be generally sick. We know that the rny, sleeve, or band is hard on the person who had the surgery. Just remember that we love you and want the best for you and that as a support person we have to be strong when you can't be. #bariatricsupport

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My support person is my amazing boyfriend of 4 years. He went to EVERY SINGLE appointment with me. He even comes to my bariatric support group meeting every single month for the past 8 months. He went to the psych consult, he went to every check up, every nut appointment, he was there when I went under and there when I woke up. He eliminated bad food in our household and has adapted his diet to eat healthfully with me. He even sometimes reminds me to eat, and cooks different things for me when I'm having trouble making myself eat. I've told him twice today how thankful I am for him, and how lucky I am to have found him. I think I'll go right now to tell him again. :)

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Do you think you can be successful without a support person? I like to think that I am my own support through this as I am in the other aspects of my life. I worry though that I will be making such a major change solo.

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Do you think you can be successful without a support person? I like to think that I am my own support through this as I am in the other aspects of my life. I worry though that I will be making such a major change solo.

I can be your support person. I can at least be a pen pal

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I will help and talk with you too! I'm having my RNY in 4 days!

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Well my SO has been an amazing support until surgery was scheduled. Now he's freaking out. I do have other health risk I was born with that is a huge concern and I know he's just worried. He is still a great support until he starts to think about recovery and surgery. He's been through heart surgeries with me and knows how hard it can be. He's excited for me but it is really hard on our "support people". He told me the other day he just wishes he could fix me. He would give anything to not have to watch me go through all my health issues and multiple surgeries. He's super easy going and I never really thought any of it bothered him until surgery was scheduled (May 4th) and he had a few beers and he told me how hard all of it is on him. Then felt bad for telling me. So yes thank your support people. It is hard on them...really hard.

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It's very hard on the people around us who love us. They're not fighting the battle we are but they are sitting helplessly watching us fight and struggle and that hurts.

Your SO is scared and this is how he's showing it. He loves you and doesn't want to lose you. He just wants to relax and enjoy life with you. Soon enough he will get that wish. Good luck to you!!!

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Well my SO has been an amazing support until surgery was scheduled. Now he's freaking out. I do have other health risk I was born with that is a huge concern and I know he's just worried. He is still a great support until he starts to think about recovery and surgery. He's been through heart surgeries with me and knows how hard it can be. He's excited for me but it is really hard on our "support people". He told me the other day he just wishes he could fix me. He would give anything to not have to watch me go through all my health issues and multiple surgeries. He's super easy going and I never really thought any of it bothered him until surgery was scheduled (May 4th) and he had a few beers and he told me how hard all of it is on him. Then felt bad for telling me. So yes thank your support people. It is hard on them...really hard.

This just made me cry...

Prayers for a successful surgery and recovery! Prayers to your SO as well!

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Interesting thought. I don't believe I HAVE one. I told very few people and so perhaps one difficult part has been that I don't really have what you're calling a "support person." I use this site a lot for support and share things with my shrink and my sponsor but I've been fairly alone with this. ... I think

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We're here for you Pedro. Never hesitate to write to one of us! We're here! I'm sorry you don't have anyone close to you to help you and be there for you. That would make things harder but in a way your not listening to everyone else telling you what "they think" you should do! It's al you which can also be nice.

I wish you luck with your journey! When is or was your surgery? What are you having? And where are you located?

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I think sometimes we are, our best support people even though we don't know each other personally, we truly know what it's like.

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Yes, this site and you guys have been HUGE for me both pre and post op, more than even i realize

i had rny feb 10th so im 9 weeks post op, feel incredible, i mean incredible!!!I lost a ton of weight pre-op, really met the doc half way, had a very good exercise and meditation routine going though I was using Atkins which is certainly not something one would want to live on, but it worked to lose around 40 pre-op, now in only the 9 weeks I've lost quite a bit and will be at goal weight in another week or two. It's odd to hear people s[peak of losing phases lasting over a year but perhaps they had a lot more to lose. I'm 6' 2" and my high was 305, but decided to do this at 285, had the surgery at 248 and now I'm 197 as of this week. Good Lord...!!! I'm getting a lot of "stop right there" comments but I only listen to my team thanks again for the great support

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