Greetings, all. I'm a newbie. I'm a 5'1 mother to a three-year-old son and a professor by trade. My pre-op weight was 212. I was 192.8 on the day of my surgery, Feb 25th, and today I'm 176.2. My surgeon was Dr. Thomas Roshek in Plano/Frisco, TX.

I'm thrilled with the surgery and the 35.2 lb weight loss, but I don't have a large support system in general, and I have a support system of exactly 0 in relationship to my surgery. I didn't know how much I'd need someone (or a small village?) to walk this journey with me until now, my fifth week post op.

My husband is not supportive. He doesn't overtly try to undermine my progress, but he doesn't ask questions. He hasn't made a single comment about my weight loss. And he's a gym rat--a muscular, bully of a guy who used to be a personal trainer. This is sort of his business, so to speak: to notice body changes.

But I digress. Clearly I need to look elsewhere for an anchor to keep me from drowning. I want to succeed.

Do you know of any support groups--virtual or face-to-face--in the north DFW area? A private FB group? Helpful forums on here? Anything, really.

ginger

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@@madeline121 Thanks for the encouragement. Hubby update: our issues go beyond this one, which just happened to be my last straw. It seemed like he was either irritated with me or ignoring me all of the time. Our home did not feel peaceful or even emotionally safe. I suggested separation. He wants to work on things and has been more supportive since my suggestion. We'll see.

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Edited April 8, 201610 yr by gingeryank

Hi Ginger, I had gastric sleeve surgery on April 4th with Dr. Nicholson. I'm also a professor & my weight on surgery day was 212. Yep, my hubby too asks very few questions - he says very little about the whole thing.

I do have a cousin who had the sleeve 4 years ago & I've met a few sleeved ladies - but most of my friends are shocked when I tell them. Planning on attending the next support group meeting in May @ Baylor. Maybe I'll see you there. So far I've lost 12lbs - but I just started on mushy foods, think my body was in survival mode on all liquids. Have an awful stabbing burning pain left of my belly button but the Docs office keeps reassuring me it's the double stitch they put it to prevent a hernia.

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Hi Ginger, I had gastric sleeve surgery on April 4th with Dr. Nicholson. I'm also a professor & my weight on surgery day was 212. Yep, my hubby too asks very few questions - he says very little about the whole thing.

I do have a cousin who had the sleeve 4 years ago & I've met a few sleeved ladies - but most of my friends are shocked when I tell them. Planning on attending the next support group meeting in May @ Baylor. Maybe I'll see you there. So far I've lost 12lbs - but I just started on mushy foods, think my body was in survival mode on all liquids. Have an awful stabbing burning pain left of my belly button but the Docs office keeps reassuring me it's the double stitch they put it to prevent a hernia.

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What are the odds? Wow. Send me a message if you want my details. I can also have you added to a FB support group if you need one. I've been going to the Baylor support group. It's great!

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Hi Ginger. Thanks for sharing. I'm scheduled for 5/10 and my doctor gave me a list of groups. You may want to call your dr. and see if he/she can recommend a group. As for your husband, I can imagine that being tough but look at it this way, you are strong, brave and if you got through the first 30 days you can get through anything. This was for you. Focus on you. As women, wives, mothers we often forget about ourselves (my case) but now it's your time. He'll come around in due time.

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Hi Ginger. Thanks for sharing. I'm scheduled for 5/10 and my doctor gave me a list of groups. You may want to call your dr. and see if he/she can recommend a group. As for your husband, I can imagine that being tough but look at it this way, you are strong, brave and if you got through the first 30 days you can get through anything. This was for you. Focus on you. As women, wives, mothers we often forget about ourselves (my case) but now it's your time. He'll come around in due time.

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@Mane2016: Thanks for the valuable feedback. I'm wondering how your surgery went?

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