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Sassyfrass,I recently read many of your posts since I have UHC also and waiting to hear requirements for revision to RNY from band. I'd be interested to hear about your progress and experiences. Do let us know.

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Sassyfrass,I recently read many of your posts since I have UHC also and waiting to hear requirements for revision to RNY from band. I'd be interested to hear about your progress and experiences. Do let us know.

Hey! I'm doing really well. Thank you for checking in on me! As of this morning, the scale showed 197.9. That's a total loss of 60 lbs. I'm in awe at my progress but so so grateful to be where I am so far! I hope everything goes well for you and UHC covers thst revision. I've heard/read such horrendous experiences with the band and feel horrible for anyone stuck with it and the complications they have to endure.

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At this point, don't stress!

Your surgeons office does this all the time and all the time with your insurance.

I would talk to your coordinator and insurance person in your surgeons office tomorrow.

After my paperwork was submitted I called insurance and they said yes they received etc and 1-2 weeks until I would hear about approval. Then she says " your surgery is Feburary 23rd so you will definitely have an answer before then"

I flipped out! My surgery date is early Feb and I have had to have so many things align that it needs to be that day!

Called surgeons office and they said no worries, I'm on for early Feb and once surgery is approved they just call and change date of surgery. Takes a 30 second phone call.

So, although I wasn't aware of this my coordinator was because they deal with my insurance so frequently.

It really sounds like the insurance guy you spoke to really had no idea what he was saying. I have never heard of an approval 6 months prior to surgery.

Oh and (hugs) I totally understand because when I had my issue I almost had a damn panic attack!

I am just getting on this forum as I am starting the 6 month process. I am hoping I cash get things submitted late November and beg them to fast track my file for surgery at the latest the week of December 13th. PRAYING!

I posted this awhile back and later felt that the issue had resolved itself and wasn't what I thought it to be. Looks like I may have been wrong.

So here goes..

I've received conflicting answers from UHC regarding my requirements. There are the typical; BMI, 6 month supervised diet and psych eval. All of which I have completed and my file is in the process of being submitted. I'm this close!!! And boom....I hit a big @ss brick wall that has knocked me off my feet this afternoon.

I called insurance to see if they'd received my file. While on the phone we discussed my requirements, etc. The rep then mentioned receiving authorization 6 months PRIOR to surgery. Curious of his answer, I asked him to convey his perception of that statement. Which he did, and I did not like. I then asked him that IF I were to be approved, let's say next Wednesday, does that mean I have to wait an ADDITIONAL 6 months before I can actually have surgery? So, like...August??? His response was yes. This whole scenario makes absolutely no sense to me. Why? Why make a patient bust their rump for 6 months to prove that they CAN follow guidelines set by their provider/nut but receive little to no result? Why have a patient see a psychiatrist, get the go ahead and then wait an additional 6 months? I'm not saying it will, but there is a lot that can happen in a 6 month period. I can honestly say that when my father passed away in 2012, I would not have been emotionally stable if you will, to follow protocol after surgery.

Up until today, I have been under the impression/hopes of having surgery in early March. I have put in my time and done what has been asked of me. And this news has rocked my world. No it's not the worst case scenario. Yes, I can put on my big girl panties and wait the required time. Yes I am even lucky for the fact that my insurance actually covers this. But I simply do not want to. And that is okay. Please do not ridicule me for being upset over this. I guarantee most of you would be just as disappointed if you were almost there and had the carpet ripped right out from under you.

And yes- when I first started this process I did inform my benefits coordinator at the office of what I was told. She said it did not sound correct and she thought the rep had misunderstood what they were reading to me. I spoke with another rep a couple of months later, and she told me that I did NOT have to wait 6 months. However, I will be calling my coordinator tomorrow to request that she call UHC and discuss this with them. When she initially called to verify my benefits, they never mentioned this to her either.

I'm just having a pity party, okay? :( And in an effort to avoid a bad habit I have almost broken...I am trying not to resort to emotional eating. I just want a big friggin donut right now!!!!!! Maybe a cupcake too..

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