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My husband and I were sleeved together. He is very private, I tell the world. He convinced me it is his business therefore even his son doesn't know. Frankly I am thankful, because I don't want to talk about it anyway. Life is good.

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Deciding to have the surgery was a tough decision to make. I just own it. I've told my siblings, friends, boss, co-workers my plans and why I am working so hard to lose weight pre-op. Most of them have been encouraging about it, only a couple of people (including one brother) have tried to talk me out of it. I told the naysayers that it was my decision to make, I researched it before making the decision, and I am sticking to it. This is your life, live it!

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Just my immediate family. At work I left it at double hernia surgery. Losing weight due to liquid diet due to hernia repair. lol.

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This was a big decision for me and it took me a very long time to make peace with it. Along the way, I spoke with my aunt, my best friend who also happens to be my coworker, and my sister. Those three people encouraged and listened to me. My immediate family and beat friends know. Also, I work in a very small business in tight quarters and my coworkers have become like family. So, very few people know and I intend to keep it that way.

For those who ask, I am eating less and exercising more.... Which are both very true.

Good luck!

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I have kept this a secret to my close friends and my immediate family. I've told my BF at work and she's been extremely supportive, I've recently started a Pre-Pre-Op diet on my own and she's joined me through this process. My hubby is extremely supportive and my kids as well. I'm very open person but this has kept my mouth shut. Maybe after some time I will open up, till then my mouth is closed.

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I have not posted anything on Facebook. But I do have a private group on face book that I invited important people in my journey to follow updates and pic. That being said tho when people ask I am extremely open about it. I work at a doctor's office so some patients you don't see people for months. When they come in they are shocked. some don't even recognize me. If i could help someone by educating them or helping them make a decision I am happy =). Everyone is different do what is comfortable for you.

P.s. I had surgery Oct 2016. Best decision ever

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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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      Officially here for a long time, not just a good time💪
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