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Has anyone been like me since surgery? Iv been horrible to my partner , I don't know if it's hormonal or what !! just can't help myself . He has done everything to try and help but I just keep pushing him away. Things before where fine .

I seemed to have turned in to she devil........ help

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I was definitely very grumpy in the first several weeks post-op and my husband had to bear the brunt of it, because he was the one unlucky enough to be around. Between the fatigue, the discomfort, the frustration, and the hormones, it's a wonder he stayed with me! The good news is, it did get a lot better one I was eating more. I do still get very "hangry" if I go more than 3-4 hours without eating. My husband puts up with it, but my mom actually took to carrying around nuts or turkey sticks in her purse whenever we're doing stuff together. She makes me eat something at the first signs of hangriness.

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If you value your relationship then get counseling and quick. Many marriages and relationships end after weight loss surgery, and for a variety of reasons.

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Fat stores hormones - mostly estrogen, but a bit of the other stuff too... so as you lose fat, those stored hormones get released back into your bloodstream. Meaning you can turn into an angry, weepy mess for quite some time while your body adjusts to the hormone flood.

Try to talk to your partner, apologize for anything you did that was out of line, but ask for some leeway for over-reacting or hormonal issues, and start being more aware of when you are acting crazy and why so you can get it under control.

Leave the room, go take a nap or have a good cry or scream into a pillow rather than taking the mood swings out on your partner.

Edited by FrankiesGirl

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I'm thinking it may happen to guys as well. I blew up at my brother the other day and have been easily aggravated at work. I am a month into this. The other day my brother said "I liked you better before you had your procedure"..... I'm trying to work on being more stable.. :)

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Luckily I got my estrogen from a patch, and I gave up that patch 2 weeks prior to surgery, so I didn't have the hormone dump that most people get. I've heard it happens though.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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