Help !!!!

Has anyone been like me since surgery? Iv been horrible to my partner , I don't know if it's hormonal or what !! just can't help myself . He has done everything to try and help but I just keep pushing him away. Things before where fine .

I seemed to have turned in to she devil........ help

I was definitely very grumpy in the first several weeks post-op and my husband had to bear the brunt of it, because he was the one unlucky enough to be around. Between the fatigue, the discomfort, the frustration, and the hormones, it's a wonder he stayed with me! The good news is, it did get a lot better one I was eating more. I do still get very "hangry" if I go more than 3-4 hours without eating. My husband puts up with it, but my mom actually took to carrying around nuts or turkey sticks in her purse whenever we're doing stuff together. She makes me eat something at the first signs of hangriness.

If you value your relationship then get counseling and quick. Many marriages and relationships end after weight loss surgery, and for a variety of reasons.

Fat stores hormones - mostly estrogen, but a bit of the other stuff too... so as you lose fat, those stored hormones get released back into your bloodstream. Meaning you can turn into an angry, weepy mess for quite some time while your body adjusts to the hormone flood.

Try to talk to your partner, apologize for anything you did that was out of line, but ask for some leeway for over-reacting or hormonal issues, and start being more aware of when you are acting crazy and why so you can get it under control.

Leave the room, go take a nap or have a good cry or scream into a pillow rather than taking the mood swings out on your partner.

Edited December 17, 201510 yr by FrankiesGirl

I'm thinking it may happen to guys as well. I blew up at my brother the other day and have been easily aggravated at work. I am a month into this. The other day my brother said "I liked you better before you had your procedure"..... I'm trying to work on being more stable..

Luckily I got my estrogen from a patch, and I gave up that patch 2 weeks prior to surgery, so I didn't have the hormone dump that most people get. I've heard it happens though.