Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Lifestyle change for Newbies - HELP!



Recommended Posts

:) I'm a newbie (no surgery yet) with a question for you old time bandsters: banding requires a serious lifestyle change - new eating habits, less dependence on food, increased activity level (i.e. exercise, yikes), close medical supervision, etc. I understand that. My worry and fear is this: I've never been too good at making serious lifestyle changes in regards to my weight/health -- if I had, I'd be thin and healthy! Surely I'm not alone here, right? So how do people go from being undisciplined eaters who don't exercise - to being a changed person after banding? If I failed before banding - will I fail afterwards too? I don't want to, I really feel motivated! But I always felt motivated before starting all the other gazillion diets too! :help:

Please share your story about how you made the switch to new healthy behaviors after banding -- especially those of you who were once like me -- constant failures at "lifestyle change". I want to be successful this time, but will I be? I know myself and I'm scared of failure...:phanvan

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I did commit myself to 30 minutes of exercise 6 weeks before surgery.

Then I had the surgery.

The band let me get that full feeling. I was always a bottomless pit.

The full feeling let me eat less. I lost weight.

Losing weight made it easier for me to exercise and that let to me exercising more.

More exercising led to more weight loss.

Exercising felt good and and made me feel powerful and healthy.

It was a domino effect for me.

band + less food + more exercise = lifestyle change

edie

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I've always been a good dieter, I'm what they call a career dieter. However, I've never been good at lasting more than 3 months and then gaining my weight back and then some. I'm a pro at yo-yo dieting.

I do think you have to be serious, you have to be at your last stray and ready to make changes. No, I could not do it on my own. The band is a tool to help me. Even when I say screw it, and want to binge, it won't let me. I'm full and cannot eat, period.

Like Edie, I did have to make a commitment to exercise. I believe exercise is a must, I exercise 6 days a week from 30 minutes to an hour, depending on my mood. If I don't want to exercise, I just do my bare minimum of 30 minutes, but other times, I go for the gold and complete my hour. Exercise has made a huge impact on my weight loss.

Also, you do have to make the right food choices, you can't eat ice cream or puree snickers and think your going to lose weight. I eat a lot of grilled meats and avoid the bad stuff. Yes, I do splurge every now and then, like last night, I'm on my monthly, and was craving cake or chocolate like no other, so I had a slice of german chocolate cake. The difference in pre-band and post-band is, before, I would have eaten 2 or 3 or maybe even 4 slices of the cake, now that I have the band, I had a slice and I was done.

I think you have to be serious, if your not it won't work. My cousin just had gastric bypass (she was not serious about losing weight), I have lost more than she has with my band. It takes a mind change and determination, and the band will be your friend and be your tool, but you have to do the work as well.

Good-luck with whatever you choose.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Hi, you expressed your,also my feels, very well. i am so very scared. but i am also so looking forward to the band.I have NEVER liked exercise!!! Not real sure what type i will stay with. the staring 6 wks before, sounds like a great idea. my dr. tells me i must have a game-plan for every area of my life for this to work in the long run, i agree. so good to hear others are making it work. i am 56 yrs.old, i really want this to work.i never thought my food-choices would caught up with me, but they have, i am a diab.have high b/p,sleep apnea, fatty liver(go figure)& MEMAPAUSE!!!!!!!!!!!!thank you all for your comments, nancy

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

When you get banded you start losing weight. When you are on the post op diet (especially at first) you can't help but to lose weight. When the pounds start melting you suddenly find motivation that you never knew you had before. Between the weight loss and realizing that the band is working you come to know that those pounds really are gone forever. Then you want to see more pounds go.

Exercise is a challenge for a lot of people but I think when we are banded it kinda comes down to how badly do you want to lose weight? If you want it bad enough, you'll exercise. Without a band we pretty well know we'll be wearing those pounds again in the future and it's hard to make yourself move. With a band you get a whole new look at the process and you want to lose, you want the pounds to go away.

I exercise most everyday for anywhere from 45 minutes to 2.5 hours. That is treadmill. I just bought a bowflex and as soon as I figure out what the heck to do with it I'll start using that too. I want to get to goal and I'm busting my back side to get it done. I want it bad enough to do it.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Exactly what Edie said. Getting results for the first time in my life made it easier and easier to keep going and then one day, WHAM, about 10 months out of surgery, I realised these new practices had become new habits.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

To help answer this question i will share one of my nsv(non-sclae victories). Before banding my attitude was i would rather work out than have to give up my food but the other day as i was trying to motivate myself to go work out i thought "I'd rather just not eat and do liquids today." I did end up going to work out but to me that was a pretty big victory in changing my way of thinking.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Thanks everyone, I'm feeling better about this surgery already! I'll be cash pay, and facing that kind of expense with that old ugly "negative voice" in my head telling me "You can't do it, you always fail, you'll gain it back before you get your bill paid off..." is scary! So really while I'm focusing on the lifestyle changes, I need to be focusing on shutting up that negative voice FOR GOOD. I never really had much support before, just doubting family members giving me "the look" after I lost weight and saying "you look great, try to keep it off this time...". I'll turn to this board for the encouragement and support I need, as well as to the local support groups. I'm proud to be among a group of such strong "warriors" in this challenging battle. I can do it. I can!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Well, for me, the LAP band has allowed me to focus on the EXERCISE lifestyle changes.

I've found my band to be pretty "self-disciplining" in the food arena.

A few episodes of PBs (productive burping - puking without stomach acid), SLIMING (my experience of this is something getting "stuck" and then every saliva and mucous gland in my head, neck and mouth producing OVERTIME, trying to lube it loose! and making me spit, blow my nose, and in general feel like a ball of goo), and chest pain - made particularly embarrassing because in line with Murphy's law, they usually happen in public- and I was "persuaded" to remember the importance of small bites, chewing thoroughly, etc.

I've also found without the strong hunger and cravings of my pre-band life, I am able to make better choices at meals and Snacks (higher Protein, less junk), and to actually stop when I am full. The mouth seems to have less sway than it used to (note - the mouth used to be the only one in charge, and whatever it wanted to eat got eaten!).

I am sure everyone's experience is different! Good luck to you as you journey through this exciting ride!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • Doughgurl

      2 days until I fly out to San Diego to have my Bypass Surg. in Tiajuana Mexico. Not gonna lie, the nerves are starting to surface. I don't fear the surgery itself, or the fact that I'm traveling alone, but its the aftermath that I'm stressing about the most, after this 8 week wait. I'm excited to finally be here, but I am really dreading the post surgical chapter. I know its going to be tough, real tough and I think I'm just in my head to much now that the day i here. Wish me luck, Hopefully I'm one of the lucky ones, and everything goes smoothly. Cant wait to give an exciting update,. If there is anyone else have a June bypass or even a recent one, Id love to have someone to compare war stories with. Also, anyone near San Antonio Tx? See ya soon with the future me. 💜
      · 3 replies
      1. Phil Penn

        Good Luck this procedure is well worth it I am down to 249.6 lb please continue with the process..

      2. Darrylkeelf

        dating site just for sex in florissant- https://allwarrior.xyz/?dj7sZN

      3. Darrylkeelf

        dating site just for sex in florissant- https://allwarrior.xyz/?dj7sZN

    • LeighaTR

      I am new here today... and only two weeks out from my sleeve surgery on the 23rd. I am amazed I have kept my calories down to 467 today so far... that leaves me almost 750 left for dinner and maybe a snack. This is going to be tough for two weeks... but I have to believe I can do it!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Doughgurl

      Hey everyone. I'm new here so I thought I should introduce myself. I am 53y/o and am scheduled for Gastric Bypass on June 25th, 2025. I'm located in San Antonio, Texas. I will be having my surgery in Tiajuana Mexico. I've wanted this for years, but I always had insurance where bariatric procedures were excluded. Finally I am able to afford to pay out of pocket.  I can't wait to get started, and I hope I'm prepared for the initial period of "hell". I know what I have signed up for, but I'm sure the good to come will out way the temporary period of discomfort and feelings of regret. I'd love to find people to talk to who have been through the same procedure or experience before. So I look forward to meeting you all. Hope you have a great week!
      · 2 replies
      1. Selina333

        I'm so happy for you! You are about to change your life. I was so glad to get the sleeve done in Dec. I didn't have feelings of regret overall. And I'm down almost 60 lbs. I do feel a little sad at restaurants. I can barely eat half a kid's meal. I get adults meals often because kid ones don't have the same offerings at times. Then I feel obligated to eat on that until it's gone and that can be days. So the restaurant thing isn't great for me. All the rest is fine by me! I love feeling full with very little. I do wish I could drink when eating. And will sip at the end. Just a strong habit to stop. But I'm working on it! You will do fine! Just keep focused on your desire to be different. Not better or worse. But different. I am happy both ways but my low back doesn't like me that heavy. So I listened (also my feet!). LOL! Update us on your journey! I'm not far from you. I'm in Houston. Good luck and I hope it all goes smoothly! Would love to see pics of the town you go to for this. I've never been there. Neat you will be traveling for this! Enjoy the journey. Take it one day at a time. Sometimes a few hours at a time. Follow all recommendations as best you can. 💗

      2. Doughgurl

        Thank you so much for your well wishes. I am hoping that everything goes easy for me as well. We don't eat out much as it is, so it wont be too bad in that department. Thankfully. Also, I hear you regarding your back and feet!! I'd like to add knees to the list. Killing me as we speak! I'm only 5' so the weight has to go. Too short to carry all this weight. Menopause really did a doosey on me. (😶lol) My daughter also lives in Houston. with her Husband and my 5 grand-littles. I grew up in Beaumont, so I know Houston well, I will be sure to keep in touch and update you on my journey. I may need some advice in the future, or just motivation. Thank You so much for reaching out, I was hoping to connect with someone in the community. I really appreciate it. 💜

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. LeighaTR

        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×