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I started my period a day after coming home from hospital. It is super heavy I am guessing due to the blood thinners and stress to my body. I am still hooked up to my pain pump. I got undressed and just started to cry. My belly has always been nice not a lot of stretch marks during pregnancy and always nice and round with my babies. Now I see keloid marks from my sleeve and the addition of two or three more entry points. I know in my mind it is NOT the end of the world I am just so super emotional right now. My husband told me I still have a cute belly. I feel so hormonal and sad in this moment. My post op diet is a breeze I am progressing. I am just sad. That it came to this after so many failed attempts of weight loss. My whole life.....

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They are VICTORY marks! That's all. They subside over time. But I get it; BOY do I get it. I've had a total of 6 operations r/t my RNY and subsequent challenges. Look on the bright side; it isn't an incision that goes from one end to the other! Hang in there!! It IS worth it.

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A few months after surgery, my skin began to shrivel up on my face. I literally looked like I was a hundred years old. My skin was paper thin with the finest wrinkles. I began to wonder if it was all worth it. It was one of those moments. Sort of similar to yours.

My wife suggested I use a produce called Bio-Oil on my face. I did and my wrinkles dissolved away. Sometimes there is a solution right around the corner that can help. Sometimes you just need to give it a little time. For me it took six months before I reached my happy state when all the problems went away.

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Scars show you have lived and usually are earned. My scars are a badge of honor. I'm fighting the fight and so are you ( so are we all). They will heal and other things will occur, then you won't even think about these again... You will be ok..

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Thank you. After talking to my husband the scars are really not the rooted issue. It is the years of pain associate with being over weight. The emotion of taking such a drastic measure to make myself health for me and my family. To be a better role model for my girls. The scars are the surface, the pain runs deeper and will be something that I address through this process,

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Try and find the bright side of things. Sounds like you have a great hubby who knows your beauty far beyond your skin! Yup, we've all had failed attempts at weight loss, but no one but YOU is making this happen right now! And if you don't think you are, quit doing what you are doing and see if it keeps working.

I have a tendency to keloid and was concerned about it enough to ask my doctor about it prior to my surgery. 2 of my six incision sites appear to have a developed small keloids. (And I have a fairly large one on my neck thanks to a prior surgery). I call them warrior wounds. Luckily, the two biggest incision sites have healed normally.

My kids said to me last night I look like I have two belly buttons due to the placement/deep nature of one of the incisions. I figure if I want to make the best of it, I can get the incision pierced since piercing my actual belly button would only ever work after a Tummy Tuck. That would make heads turn for sure LOL.

Keep ya' head up!

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It IS a process and through it, much will be revealed about yourself. What an adventure you have in store. What a JOURNEY to a new and improved YOU!!

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It IS a process and through it, much will be revealed about yourself. What an adventure you have in store. What a JOURNEY to a new and improved YOU!!

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This totally. The scars are just a representation of where my real emotion stems from. They make me face issues that are locked away.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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