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Why don't you join us on the singles thread? We have a lot of conversations about being single and banded.

And to answer your question, Yes, I would definitely date a single dad.

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You better believe I would.....!!!!!!! I am a full time work week single mommy of 2 little girls ages 1 and 3. It is so hard. I don't get any financial help at all. Their dad does see them for a couple hours a few times a week but provides no monetary help, no diapers, preschool payments, nothing. It is HARD....one of the hardest things I have ever had to do next to battling obesity and finishing nursing school. Any man who can handle that kind of load is the kind of man you want around when life gets tough and you need a strong shoulder to cry on. So.....keep up the good work and just know that those women who don't date you are CRAZY.....lol!!

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I have dated a single dad. We broke up for other reasons, but he also didn't have custody of his kids, and didn't care to, which kind of bothered me. A single father who had an active interest in his kids lives is better. I have to say it would also depend on how well behaved the kids are (which it sounds like yours are). I firmly believe that for the most part (there are exceptions), that how a kid behaves is a direct result of how they are raised.

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It would depend in part on the kids. I did live with a man who had 3 boys and we did intend to get married. His children were really nice kids and they were at interesting ages by the time I knew them. He was also a very hands-on kind of parent and so I wasn't expected to be anything much other than a caring adult friend to them. This arrangement suited them and it suited me because I am not at all maternal. I would certainly not date or live with a man who was raising a baby or very tiny children.

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I would certainly not date or live with a man who was raising a baby or very tiny children.

I agree, green. Actually, I think I'd be a little creeped out living in the same house with very tiny children. I'd be afraid one would run up my pant leg, or that maybe I'd step on one. :);)

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I agree, green. Actually, I think I'd be a little creeped out living in the same house with very tiny children. I'd be afraid one would run up my pant leg, or that maybe I'd step on one. :car: :car:

I'd be afraid that my cat would mistake 'em for prey. :omg: She is a hunter. :heh: That would almost certainly destroy a romantic moment with their father even if he did have a good sense of humour about mishaps. :tired

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I'm going to be brutally honest; I wouldn't do it.

I'm childless by choice and I love my freedom and lifestyle. I tend to gravitate toward older men because I find them more interesting and if they do have children, they're grown.

But I know there are plenty of women who will and who also have children of their own. There's lots of wonderful people in this world, and it's better to know up front if you're not compatable.

Best of luck to you.

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Absolutely! Why wouldn't I?My husband had a young daughter when I met him, ( I also had 4 kids of my own living at home with me). I had a very sweet polite 14 yr. old girl, A grouchy, argumentive, depressed 12 yr. old girl. A lovable 3 yr. old daughter, and a hyperactive 2 yr. old son.My husband must have seen something in me that not many others had for him to keep persuing me with the load I had on board.

My ex couldn't handle the stress of living where children dwell and one day he up and left me for a childless woman. He doesn't mind helping to financially support them, so long as he doesn't have to have much direct contact with them.(What a LOSER!) Anyways, I met a wonderful man with a precious daughter. Her mother had all of her 8 children (with 6 different men) taken away by the state a year after we moved in together, so his daughter came to live with us.The road has had some hills and bumps, sometimes even a pothole appears, but for the most part its been pretty muched paved along the way. That seems so long ago, but I'm so glad we took that journey, because we love all of our children and eachother with all of our hearts. There is definetley enough love and patience in our home for everybody.

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