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Does anyone regret getting this surgery???

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Having the surgery, never. Not having the surgery years back, yes.

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I think buyer's remorse is a feeling many get. What has let you to regret your decision?

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I barely started the process and idk why all of a sudden i feel so bad so sad and scared to do something i kight regret

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Only that I didn't do it sooner, but really I wasn't ready before now.

I think the sleeve is probably the least regret provoking surgery just because you end up not that different from most people. You can still eat things just in very small amounts.

It is normal to be nervous or worried. This is major surgery no matter how easy the recovery might be and no one should take it lightly.

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I think buyer's remorse is a feeling many get. What has let you to regret your decision?

After i had my seminar like i wasnt able to sleep feeling so dum for going over all this and not being able to do it on my own at the end of the day i do want to but i feel so bad for waisting all this money just because i cant do it alone like anyone normal that eats healthy and goes to the gym for example ????

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I will be honest, I was scared but the thought of death was scarier. The only regret is that I didn't do it sooner but I would do it again. I am 9 month's out and the surgery saved my life.

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Any doubt's I had in my mind were mostly because people kept telling me I did not need it, I look fine, I can lose it on my own. I am only 8 days post-op now but so far I do not regret it yet.

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You are changing your life in a radical way. Many things that were comfortable or familiar are changing. That is a scary process and regret is a normal reaction.

But you had the courage to take the first steps. Just keep taking those steps. As for not being able to do it alone, only a small percentage of folks can. Big deal! You made a choice to live a different, healthier life and more power to you. We all have moments of regret, the key is to see past them. So far, I am discovering this was the best gift I ever gave myself and in my now much smaller gut I know that feeling will only get stronger.

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You might find some people immediately post-op that are regretting their decisions, but after those first weeks, those with regrets seem to be a very small percentage of the population on this forum. I had some reservations about the surgery (hence my joining this site in 2007 and not having surgery until 2015), but from reading a ton of posts, even those with pretty significant complications in the beginning say they would go back and do it all again.

And, like you, I had several times where I thought I'd give it one more shot "on my own." Which always resulted in 25-30 pounds of weight loss, followed by a regain + another 5-10 pounds on top of it. There's no shame in admitting you need help with this aspect of your life.

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You might find some people immediately post-op that are regretting their decisions, but after those first weeks, those with regrets seem to be a very small percentage of the population on this forum. I had some reservations about the surgery (hence my joining this site in 2007 and not having surgery until 2015), but from reading a ton of posts, even those with pretty significant complications in the beginning say they would go back and do it all again.

And, like you, I had several times where I thought I'd give it one more shot "on my own." Which always resulted in 25-30 pounds of weight loss, followed by a regain + another 5-10 pounds on top of it. There's no shame in admitting you need help with this aspect of your life.

Thank you for this i feel so guilty but i really do need this in my life i have been over weigt all my life i have done all types of diets and fall back in no more than 3 months ????

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I will be honest, I was scared but the thought of death was scarier. The only regret is that I didn't do it sooner but I would do it again. I am 9 month's out and the surgery saved my life.

Thank you so much for this i feel guilty because its a lot of money but I've done almost everything and i always fall back and gain more then when i started

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After i had my seminar like i wasnt able to sleep feeling so dum for going over all this and not being able to do it on my own at the end of the day i do want to but i feel so bad for waisting all this money just because i cant do it alone like anyone normal that eats healthy and goes to the gym for example

I never regretted this for one single minute. Nor do I think it's a waste of $$$ or an indication of lack of self control. We are dealing with multiple factors: genetics, health issues and diseases and addictions. Know when you need help is not a sign of weakness, it's a sign of strength. If we could all do this on our own the need for this surgery wouldn't exist and everyone in the world would be at an idea weight. This surgery isn't magical. You still have to work at. What it does do is give you a chance to relearn how to eat and actually overcome the many roadblocks that have prevented you from losing weight on your own.

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You are changing your life in a radical way. Many things that were comfortable or familiar are changing. That is a scary process and regret is a normal reaction.

But you had the courage to take the first steps. Just keep taking those steps. As for not being able to do it alone, only a small percentage of folks can. Big deal! You made a choice to live a different, healthier life and more power to you. We all have moments of regret, the key is to see past them. So far, I am discovering this was the best gift I ever gave myself and in my now much smaller gut I know that feeling will only get stronger.

Thank you for your words i haven't been my self i cant help feeling so guilty for doing this but I've done almost everything and i always fail and go back to my bad habits

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I am 25 yrs old and always so depressed dude to my weight i have 3 children and I'm a stay at home wife my children ages are 3yrs 18 months & 4 months my husband is 23 yrs I'm always angry in a bad mood plus health issues always tired with my energy on the floor this is why i took my first step in looking into WLS i feel hopeless ????

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