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@@saraburnett It will pass but you are too early to try to hang out especially with people that don't know you had the procedure done. The time flies by so focus on your recovery and getting out of puréed foods into solids. Just a heads up, even on solids you can't eat much and you may find that things you could eat before will make you throw up. I stayed away from people that didn't know until I was on solids and figured out what worked and what didn't. You have your husband to hang out with and I had my guy friend so the depression was short lived for me but I went through it. I regretted having surgery. He would eat so fast and I felt I wasted his money but it was all in the process. My co-workers hated going to lunch with me because I couldn't eat much. I'm 7 months and now I can fake it and eat a lot more than I could at 3 months.

It will get better. Keep your head up!! Good luck.

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@@saraburnett It will pass but you are too early to try to hang out especially with people that don't know you had the procedure done. The time flies by so focus on your recovery and getting out of puréed foods into solids. Just a heads up, even on solids you can't eat much and you may find that things you could eat before will make you throw up. I stayed away from people that didn't know until I was on solids and figured out what worked and what didn't. You have your husband to hang out with and I had my guy friend so the depression was short lived for me but I went through it. I regretted having surgery. He would eat so fast and I felt I wasted his money but it was all in the process. My co-workers hated going to lunch with me because I couldn't eat much. I'm 7 months and now I can fake it and eat a lot more than I could at 3 months.

It will get better. Keep your head up!! Good luck.

I wouldn't recommend isolating myself. It's not about the food, it's about the company. Go, nurse a drink or get Water with a lime in it and focus on enjoying company. Part of this is relearning how to Celebrate and socialize without food as a crutch. I've been going out since I was 2 mths post op. Sometimes I eat, sometimes I get Soup, and sometimes I get nothing. I chat with my friends and have a good time. If you don't make a big deal about it, no one else will. You had this surgery to be able to get out and enjoy life, so go out and ENJOY!

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@@saraburnett I completely understand how you feel right now. The depression is setting in and I miss food. It was always a comfort for me that is no longer available. We just have to work through this together.

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I had surgery 10/28. I figured it was too early to have hormone dumps already but maybe not. I have been depressed all day. Wondering why I did this to myself. I know it will be worth it and I keep reminding myself of that. I have a couple of friends who have had the surgery and they talk about losing 25 pounds in the first week. I've lost 5. And this "liquid diet plan" the surgeon gave me as a reference is discouraging, to say the least. It says to take in 8 oz in 2 sittings. I'm doing good getting 4 oz in 2 sittings. And it's hard to get my Water in when I'm having to wait 30 mins in between. Like I said. I know things will get better and everyone is different. I just gotta get past these first few days. I would kill for a big, juicy hamburger right now lol.

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Yes the liquid diet is horrible!!! It is hard for me still to get the Protein in because the Protein Shakes make me nauseated and not a fan of Protein Bars. I still have days where I question why did I do this but I know why health. I want to be here for my family!! I miss pizza lol. Hang in there!!! I am 7 weeks now and feel like I lose for a couple weeks then don't lose any for a couple of weeks very disappointed but I just keep hoping I will get there.

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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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