I am a month post op. I am wondering how you guys deal with being around friends eating and drinking. I am in the puréed stage. I want to isolate myself???? I feel like I am disappointing my husband. I feel all alone!!!

What you're feeling is completely normal at your phase. Please believe me, it gets better as your progress to eating more normal food. Try not to isolate yourself! It's super hard at first to see everyone enjoying food and alcohol around you, but as you progress to different foods, it will get easier. I think most of us felt the way you do at first, but it gets better! Hang in there!

Why do you feel you're disappointing your husband?

Thank u!! Just feeling so depressed ???? I am glad I did the surgery just want to feel like a normal person again

Give your self some time! Like said before, it does get better.

Totally normal! Keep in mind you also have a LOT of hormone changes going on right now that can also contribute to depression. I had it for quite a few months.

Maybe you and hubby could go for a walk or bowling or mini golf so you're spending time together without food being the focus? Of course only do those things if you are cleared by your surgeon. We wouldn't want you hurting yourself!

My husband wants to go out with friends and wants me to go and have fun. I want to it's just really hard to see everyone eating and drinking. Most of them don't know about my surgery so to pack little containers for me to eat I would have to explain. He's a great husband and very supportive but tonight he told me he doesn't know if the surgery was the right decision because I am sad and don't want to be around people

Why don't you just order soup you can sip on it and feel like your part of everything. If they say is that all your eating say yes I ate late today ????

I love to eat out and soup has been my savior.

Thanks!! That's a great idea????

I was sleeved Aug 28th and was very depressed for over a month really bad. It's finally getting better. I think it's totally normal. Hope you feel better soon! You're not alone!

I am a month post op. I am wondering how you guys deal with being around friends eating and drinking. I am in the puréed stage. I want to isolate myself I feel like I am disappointing my husband. I feel all alone!!!

I never think about it. I focus on enjoying the company not the food. With a bit of planning it's easy. Since I have allergies I was already used to reading menus beforehand and planning what was safe before going out. If nothing was available I'd eat before I went and just get something simple to drink on and nurse that.

My brother went to the mall today to watch a movie. I had a good cry about it because I cannot sit for too long at a movie theater since I am 10 days post op. Plus the smell of the popcorn and then watching him scarf down a burger would probably do me in. So I stayed at home, cried a bit and watched Downton Abbey, it did make me feel better. Once I am back to feeling normal, I will venture to the movie theatre.

I was sleeved on 9/15 and im going thru all kinds of emotions what your expeircing is definitely normal..i definitely understand how u feel

Thanks everyone makes me feel better that I'm not alone!!!

It all passes. There is a light at the end of the depression, hormone induced cry sessions, and feeling of being out of place. The liquids is the worst phase. The next phase which is really intimidating and scary and mixed with emotions is when you go out a few months later and see people who have not noticed the new you in a while. Its like a door opens and everyone notices how much your appearance has changed. It has been another roller coaster of emotion. Your co workers ask what you have been doing, what the secret is, the ones who know about surgery cant help but tell you how good you look. I had to retrain myself how to take a compliment and not over think it. You will feel amazing and with that feeling comes a new wardrobe you feel proud to be wearing and that also brings in the confidence. This is an incredible roller coaster we are all on. Hold on and keep all arms and feet inside the car!

Good luck ladies and keep faith that the end result is all worth it.

Thank u!!

@@saraburnett It will pass but you are too early to try to hang out especially with people that don't know you had the procedure done. The time flies by so focus on your recovery and getting out of puréed foods into solids. Just a heads up, even on solids you can't eat much and you may find that things you could eat before will make you throw up. I stayed away from people that didn't know until I was on solids and figured out what worked and what didn't. You have your husband to hang out with and I had my guy friend so the depression was short lived for me but I went through it. I regretted having surgery. He would eat so fast and I felt I wasted his money but it was all in the process. My co-workers hated going to lunch with me because I couldn't eat much. I'm 7 months and now I can fake it and eat a lot more than I could at 3 months.

It will get better. Keep your head up!! Good luck.