Weight loss is such a personal journey...a hairball of the bliss of eating favorite foods, complex emotions, compulsions, defeating behaviors, shame, embarrassment, resentment, and the list goes on and on. No one wants to admit that they can't control what goes into their mouth. I'm coming up on my surgery Nov 2nd...and frankly, if I could, I would tell no one at all! Some of it is the former, but also, from having my lapband surgery, it added sooo much pressure, having people watch everything I ate, asking me how much weight I've lost each time I saw them, saying insensitive comments and remarks, etc...and then it was what they did not say, as I put the weight back on slowly but surely...I could almost hear what they were thinking while watching me eat. My mother falls into the category of people I don't want to tell. I love her dearly, but she's a stoic, non understanding person, who, when I had the lapband, called up each and every one of her thousands of friends to "in confidence" express her fears over my decision, and to ask their opinion. I was mortified at how many people knew, way before I was willing to share...

When I loose weight, folks will surely ask how, and I'm not sure how to circumvent lying. I don't want to be dishonest, but then again, I don't feel like I need to share my personal and medical choices with certain folks... I will need all my mental energy to focus on learning to use this tool to loose weight, rather than appease peoples curiosity and deal with their remarks and opinions.

So in short, just wondering, if you decided to tell or not to tell. And if not, how you coup with the inevitable questions that will come.

I96, prayers for you on your surgery tomorrow. Can't wait to hear about your experience afterward. I won't see my surgery until around late January, so I love to read about everyone's success! Wishing you all the best for your recovery, and future weight loss!

Hi everyone! I am almost one week out of surgery and doing absolutely great. I mentioned that I had had surgery to my dad finally. He didn't even ask what for. However my phone rang within minutes-he called my sister immediately and asked her to find out about it. I knew he would. She was surprised to say the least but couldn't halt my enthusiasm. I told her it wasn't a 'secret', I just wanted it to be all about me. In the end she turned out to be supportive. I got a text within a minute of the call. She was already on the phone with my other sister sharing the news. They dont realize how uncomfortable, unhappy and embarrassed I was all the time. I now have two new supporters - but I know I made the right decision before the surgery. I hope all of you who are still in the waiting stage have great luck with your surgery and that you feel as happy as I do right now! Thanks for all your support while I was waiting too!

Hi everyone! I am almost one week out of surgery and doing absolutely great. I mentioned that I had had surgery to my dad finally. He didn't even ask what for. However my phone rang within minutes-he called my sister immediately and asked her to find out about it. I knew he would. She was surprised to say the least but couldn't halt my enthusiasm. I told her it wasn't a 'secret', I just wanted it to be all about me. In the end she turned out to be supportive. I got a text within a minute of the call. She was already on the phone with my other sister sharing the news. They dont realize how uncomfortable, unhappy and embarrassed I was all the time. I now have two new supporters - but I know I made the right decision before the surgery. I hope all of you who are still in the waiting stage have great luck with your surgery and that you feel as happy as I do right now! Thanks for all your support while I was waiting too!

Thanks for sharing, I have kept mine to myself to the point that I don't even have a ride to and from the hospital.....guess I have to let someone in at some point or hire a limo......guess that is an option as well, but maybe a tad bit expensive

Oh I hope you can find at least 1 friend to share this with. I was so happy to have my son to run to the store for me the first night when I needed fiber and Imodium like right now! I am not driving yet and that night I had taken pain meds too. Just sharing the little things like how awful my liquid meds taste makes me feel better. You can post to me for on line support too. Good luck.