Stupid things people say when they find out you've had surgery....

[AndeeG 14]

I'm pretty open with what I have done. This is MY truth not theirs. I am 4 weeks post-op and still mostly on liquids but I find because I am so positive and hopeful (down 30 lbs) the questions I get are more curious then judgmental. People not knowledgable about bariatric surgery just need a little schooling.

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[onewayoranother 35]

No comments here because I only told one person and she's having hers done as I type. Very happy for my decision about keeping it under wraps. #nonegativity

[kimini 175]

The only boneheaded comment I've gotten was this:

At 2 weeks post-op, I was talking to a co-worker about my liquid diet and mentioned I had lost 8 lbs. She said, "Only 8 pounds?! I would hope that if I had been on a liquid only diet for 2 weeks I would lose more than that!" This coming from a woman who bounces between a size 2 and 6 and goes on a crash diet before every beach vacation so she can look good in her bikinis!

I feel for everyone who has gotten insensitive comments from people, especially family. I have a long history of my mother being overly critical of me about many things. Luckily, my weight has not really been one of them (probably because others in my family are/have been obese as well).

The only insensitive thing my mother said to me concerning weight was when I would mention something about my weight, and she (at 5'2" and 145 lbs) would chime in with how overweight she was and how much she needed to lose. When I would tell her it's not the same, she would say things like, "I'm shorter than you are." (hmm, really? 2 inches make that big a difference?) and "This is the biggest I've ever been!" (cry me a river!)

Some people just wear me out!

[kimini 175]

Oops, forgot one! My 21 year old stepson came over when I was about 2 weeks post op and asked me how much weight I've lost. Comments like this are not uncommon from him, but really??? Must I continue to explain what is okay and what is not now that you are a grown man?

[GirthyGirl 79]

I guess I've been lucky. I haven't had one rude or insensitive comment and I tell everyone and their brother. Most people have just been curious about what my life is like now.

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[sondra2368 26]

I find that EVERYONE is now on a diligent diet since I lost all this weight. My mom, my sister, and people at work are all self conscious about their weight now. I never cared about their weight but apparently they all cared about mine. They feel that they can all do it without surgery. I think that it's all insane. I did the surgery for me.

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[LMSWNYC 119]

I noticed everyone around me is dieting too. Strange how people become self-conscious about themselves.

[Color83 74]

That it's a cosmetic procedure

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[IveGotThePower 395]

Yes, I see a family member dieting now also. I'm taking it as though I inspired him. But it could very well be a little competition going on from his way of thinking. I wish him all the success in the world. But in the end I believe this amazing sleeve gives me a huge advantage and I almost feel a little sorry for him, because I think he still believes it's just a matter of willpower. I now know it is SO much more than that.

[Wendyfm 494]

I'm two years out, the other day I was talking to the librarian of the school I work at about having pictures taken. I told him that Before I lost weight I hated having my picture taken, but now I don't mind. He said" what you've lost weight?" I said " 100 pounds !" He said what? "I don't remember you being fat!" I had to say thank you and try not to laugh.

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[ladyslim2015 74]

"You took the easy way out" like are u serious

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[kimini 175]

Seriously, I've been astounded at a lot of the things people say. Since I had not heard them before, I found it hard to believe that people would be so insensitive. Until this past weekend. At a party, talking to a guy whose name I didn't even know, he kept questioning me about why I wasn't drinking (it was a wine tasting party, and he had seen me tasting at previous parties) so I finally told him, and he said:

"So why don't you just put down the fork?"

[KristenVSG2014 1,872]

This older man I saw yesterday doesn't know HOW I lost weight but he complimented me and said I looked great. Then he asked, "Are you still married?" I respond 'yes' with a confused look. Then he says, "Well most people who lose weight and end up looking as good as you leave their spouses." I said, "Well, I don't see what the number on the scale has to do with my wedding vows...But my husband has said people probably wonder why we are together and I tell him they must assume he's filthy rich or very well endowed." That worked. LOL

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[Santiago Draco 73]

I'm pretty open with what I have done. This is MY truth not theirs. I am 4 weeks post-op and still mostly on liquids but I find because I am so positive and hopeful (down 30 lbs) the questions I get are more curious then judgmental. People not knowledgable about bariatric surgery just need a little schooling.

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Exactly.

[Special1 9]

My overweight best friend looks at my success and is thinking about getting sleeved. Her question: "so..when can I eat potatoes, breads and gravy again?" I don't think she's ready yet...

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