ladyslim2015

Love this and btw I'm a mix of 2 and 3. It is so true, even after losing 94lbs Im still not happy like I thought I would be if I lost the weight. I've had years of therapy and I grown to love myself more and not blame myself for what happened to me but I realize i still have boust of self doubt and guilt for things I had no control over. My action were for survival but I'm not there yet and going backwards.
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I have observed 3 traits common to most people who are unable make the lifestyle changes necessary to maintain healthy weight loss.


1. They believe that a particular diet plan, fitness expert, book, doctor, medication, or personal trainer holds the magic formula that will forever end their weight woes. They see the answer to their weight issues as lying outside of them and set themselves up to assume a victim status. You cannot turn your power over to someone or something external and expect to live an empowered healthy life. You must learn to connect with your inner wisdom and act on its guidance. In terms of your body and weight, you must get clear about your intention to treat your body with love and respect. When you do that and check in with your internal guidance, you know what you must do to have a healthy and strong body. You will be intuitively drawn to any external support you need like nutrition or fitness experts, books, or support groups. You follow what feels right and let go of anything that conflicts with your inner wisdom. You lose weight from the inside out, which really is the only way to make lifestyle changes necessary for you to be at peace with your body and food.
2. Inherent in the diet mentality is the core belief that being overweight is bad, which translates into “I am bad or weak if I am overweight,” and that the solitary act of losing weight is the key to happiness and self-acceptance. It promotes the thinking that “When I lose weight I will really love and accept myself and then I can be happy.” Actually, the opposite is true. Once you love and accept yourself just as you are, and give yourself permission to be happy, you will release your excess weight. Permanent healthy weight loss is a consequence of self-love and respect, not the cause of it.
3. The majority of their thoughts are focused on how much they do not like their body, and how much they don’t like being overweight. This way of thinking leads to feelings of anger, frustration, and depression, which attract to them more life experiences that leave them feeling angry, frustrated, and depressed about their weight and their body. Your life is a physical manifestation of your predominant thoughts and feelings. If you want to lose weight you must stop thinking and focusing on how much you don’t like your body and weight the way it is now. You must start to imagine and feel what it will be like to be at your ideal healthy weight, to be at peace with your body, to truly love and nurture yourself. You must look for ways and reasons to feel good regardless of your current weight!
Think about it.....
Live in Love!
Louisa

During weight loss, and eventually weight management, your long-term success will be contingent upon prioritizing time and effort to take care of your business of weight loss.


We all have an inherent need to help others before we help ourselves, particularly as adults when we take on the roles of spouse, partner or parent.
But taking on the goal of losing a large amount of weight requires that you dedicate yourself 100 percent to the task at hand. Make time--no matter what obstacles try to block your path--to accomplish these tasks every day 24/7/365 (yes, even Christmas):
· Shopping for fresh and healthy food
· Preparing meals
· Exercising daily
· Relaxing
· Planning for the next day
These responsibilities can be challenging when you are so accustomed to helping everybody else before finally seeing to your own needs (if you are not too exhausted to do so). It’s all-too-easy for self-care activities to slide off the to-do list (I’ll start again tomorrow…)
Undertaking the Herculean challenge of losing a large amount of weight and changing unhealthy lifestyle patterns in your life may be the battle of a lifetime for many of you.
And you are worth it.
But to accomplish this goal as quickly and effectively as possible, you have to prioritize “self-care.”
Five ways to prioritize your needs during weight loss
1. Prepare and enjoy your meal before you cook for the family.
2. Set-up a kids’ activities car pool to lessen wasted time sitting idly in the car.
3. Set a daily reminder to take a 15-minute break every day to do something that you enjoy, even if you just sit with your eyes closed.
4. Feel free to say to detractors, “I have to devote a concerted effort toward my weight loss, which will make me healthier and happier.”
5. If you are put into a situation where you may eat for the wrong reasons, change plans or politely excuse yourself. (You are in a special situation, you are allowed).
Like getting regular oil changes for your car, prioritizing your own needs is what allows you to run optimally and put your best foot forward toward achieving your weight loss goals.
And you are very much worth it.