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Today was my son's birthday and of course the obligatory cake. I said none for me but then, as usual comes the also obligatory guilting. So after finally agreeing to the microscopic piece consisting if three small bites with the frosting scraped off, I ate my cake. I was shocked it was so bitter and nasty tasting. Pretty miraculous considering 2 months ago I consumed most of the cake on the eastern seabord. In fact you know that saying about loving something as much as a "fat kid loves cake"? Yep that was written for me. But anyway my point is it felt good to control my own body and mind and not give in to my addiction. And considering how it tasted going down I think it will be a long time before I take another bite. But more important than as anything I realize that I am not afraid of food any longer.

Thanks for listening to a crazy old lady rant

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I was going through that with some of my favorite foods about a month ago. I had stayed away from them for months after surgery but decided to try them. The taste of them are different now and I can honestly say that I am glad I tried to eat them again. Now I don't deprive myself of foods I once loved because they don't taste the same. I used to love soda as well but when I tried to take a sip of sprite I just couldn't handle the taste and the feeling I got in my stomach. Now it's Water, green tea and Crytal Light!

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Exactly daveo! I was thinking the same thing...i was so glad I tried it because now I won't be yearning for what I can't have but appreciating what I can and knowing that I'm not missing a thing...I'm impervious now!

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"But more important than as anything I realize that I am not afraid of food any longer."

@@nomorechubbybutt63 What a great accomplishment! Kudos. I'm also finding that foods I enjoyed before surgery don't taste the same now. I've even given up coffee, at least for now (I'm six weeks post op). But I really don't miss it. :P

Keep up the good work!

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What do you mean by "obligatory guilting"?

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In my house as in other enablers if you don't eat you get guilted. As in "c'mon just one piece I bought this special " Yada Yada yada

However family is not good at it so it's not a big deal.

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In my house as in other enablers if you don't eat you get guilted. As in "c'mon just one piece I bought this special " Yada Yada yada

However family is not good at it so it's not a big deal.

You need to learn to stand your ground and set some boundaries. This is not healthy.

A simple "No, thank you." with a smile is a good place to start. And you may have to keep saying it.

You have to set the tone for how you allow others to treat you.

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I'm not here for bashing..i have my house in order. It is there problem not mine.i was just saying how nice it was to know I could eat 3 small bites of cake and be done . That's all.

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Just wanted to share that special moment with my fellow sleevers...

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I'm not here for bashing..i have my house in order. It is there problem not mine.i was just saying how nice it was to know I could eat 3 small bites of cake and be done . That's all.

I wasn't bashing you, just responding to your post based on my experience.

I think it's great that you only ate 3 small bites of cake. That is something to Celebrate.

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Today was my son's birthday and of course the obligatory cake. I said none for me but then, as usual comes the also obligatory guilting. So after finally agreeing to the microscopic piece consisting if three small bites with the frosting scraped off, I ate my cake. I was shocked it was so bitter and nasty tasting. Pretty miraculous considering 2 months ago I consumed most of the cake on the eastern seabord. In fact you know that saying about loving something as much as a "fat kid loves cake"? Yep that was written for me. But anyway my point is it felt good to control my own body and mind and not give in to my addiction. And considering how it tasted going down I think it will be a long time before I take another bite. But more important than as anything I realize that I am not afraid of food any longer.

Thanks for listening to a crazy old lady rant

Isn't that great! I love that I can say no now without feeling deprived. I'm in love with sugar free fudgsickles so I keep a box at home and remind myself I can have one when I get home for my treat.

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