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So far it's better .... I think having the extra weight on ... suppressed my desire ... but now ... I feel like I can move around better and not be so embarrassed to wanna try new things ....

I'm very blessed in that I have a husband who doesn't care about the weight and I could swing from the ceiling and it would be ok with him!

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Hope mine is better. My husband always tells me that I could gain more weight and he'd love me. But our sex life is stuck somewhere, and it's not here.

I feel very unattractive, so I am really hoping and praying for improvements.

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I feel like my desire is returning, but I think it's because I have more energy and am less tired and I feel better about myself and my body overall. I feel sexy again. My husband has never cared about my weight, thankfully.

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Even "old people" sex is better. I am more flexible and enthusiastic. Even the Wellbutrin helps.

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Yes!!!!!!! :)

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From the male side its a totally different life. im ashamed a bit to admit i used to last about 4 minutes and the fat pad around my a..area was hiding quite a bit. now im horny as a porcupine on steroids three times as...endowed and average 20 to 25 minutes per . From the male side of things, its a whole diferent ball game..pun not intended.

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@@Stevehud ... so glad to have a male's view ! That was enlightening ! Glad we have the nerve to be so honest around here ... Thank you !! :)

@@Miss Mac ... I just LOVE your input on all subjects that I have the pleasure of reading ... You are so funny and make me smile ... What a joy!

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I'm telling you this.... Our sex life has improved sooo much since I've been losing. I keep asking my husband if it feels different and he says not really but since I feel soo good physically and about myself thst it's a real turn on. Btw, we've been married 19 plus years and 3 boys! We are enjoying each other soo much more right now than we ever have!

Hope the same will be for you!!

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Awesome that's so great to hear! Yea my sex life is great but sometimes my weight interferes different positions so my husband gets frustrated at times lol

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I am 3months out and 55lbs down. Sex is so much better since the weight loss. I feel a lot better about my body I feel sexier. I could buy sexy lingerie now. My bf. Loves the new me because I feel more confident in myself. Now I like to try new positions with no problem

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@ Ms KarenC2008, does your husband have a single brother?! Lol... Had to ask. So nice that your husband is comfortable with you as you are!

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Hi, I found out my low desire is caused that I have low Testosterone.. Found in my pre-op blood work.

I'm like WHAT? I'm a female isn't that for a guy?

My nurse said no, even us women need a little bit.. So, I googled it and it directly affects women's reproductive ability and yes sexual desire. My nurse said very common for many of her overweight female patients.. she said as I lose weight, I will regain to a more normal level. Just google it and check your blood work, and likely you're the same too. It also can affect ability to lose weight. Thinking about my current stall I might consider finding out how I can increase mine in the meantime.

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