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Those darn stalls are so frustrating. Hang in there, your body is resetting. Good luck!

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Whatever you do, don't give up. I've been hovering in the 190s for 6 months and let me tell you...it's frustrating as heck. However, this is where you stop worrying about the scale and concentrate on physical and mental fitness. Reevaluate what you are eating if need be but don't let that scale ruin your success.

Sometimes are bodies are real a-aholes and if you're like me, mine never liked giving up too much weight. So even though I'm still focused on reaching that 140lb goal (I'm 5'3), I'm more focused on conditioning my muscles, heart, and lungs. Eventually the rest of that excess weight will go away because my metabolism is working better. It's important to condition your fast-twitch muscles because that's what keeps your body burning fat even when you aren't moving. I figure in another year I should be close to my goal.

I try to keep in mind that my weight problems really started when I was about 10-11. I was 42 when I had surgery in July 2014 so I have 32 years of a non-existent metabolism/excess overweight to combat.

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im 5"10. And its certainly is discouraging...I know im complaining about losing like 70lbs. But 20 was before surgery. I usually eat portion size of about half a sandwich but I would say my pouch holds between 4=8 ounces Depending on day. I havent been counting calories religiously but estimate between 900=1300. But im up at 7am till 11pm so its a long day lol.....ughhhh...idk

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When you're stuck or stalled sometimes you've got to change something to get the scale moving again. That could be increasing Water, increasing exercise, decreasing carbs or sugar, increasing or decreasing calories depending on how many you've been eating.

I would suggest tracking your food in MFP for at least a week to get an accurate idea of how many calories, Protein, carbs, sugar you are truly eating. Then adjust what you think needs to be adjusted.

If that doesn't work then call your doctor or nut and get advice from them! Keep in mind the body needs time to recover and adjust sometimes. As long as you are following your plan the weight loss should pick back up again.

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im 5"10. And its certainly is discouraging...I know im complaining about losing like 70lbs. But 20 was before surgery. I usually eat portion size of about half a sandwich but I would say my pouch holds between 4=8 ounces Depending on day. I havent been counting calories religiously but estimate between 900=1300. But im up at 7am till 11pm so its a long day lol.....ughhhh...idk

So if you aren't tracking your food, how do you know if you are getting enough Protein? At the very least I would recommend tracking your Protein in something like MyFitnessPal. Getting enough Water and protein are critical for healing as well as optimal weight loss.

Everyone goes through stalls. It's how our bodies work. You can't control the scale, but you can make sure you get in all the required protein and Water.< /p>

Edited to add: if you plan out your meals and Snacks (with protein every time) throughout the day, it will help you get through a long day more easily.

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Just a challenge to consider - but it wasn't easy for any of us. We all had our moments and our various struggles to learn something from. But the thing is ... this is a journey. You are learning some very important skills that once you hit whatever magic number you are shooting for, you will need the skills you picked up along the way to keep at where ever you have driven yourself to get. Learn that as you go so that history doesn't trip you up to repeat itself.

Best thing I can advise, don't compare. Everyone's different. Stalls happen. Keep doing logically what you know are "the basics" to success. Make sure you log, get your Protein in and do it first, make sure you get your Vitamins, at least 64 oz Water a day, plan ahead on meals (because that can easily trip you up if you don't), get at least 7 hours of sleep (so your body will lose and you don't fall into boredom/stress grazing). If eating too much, make sure you get Water as thirst masks as hunger (or so we assume). Get in a local support group. Work on cognitive distortions (like all or nothing thinking and shoulding all over yourself). It's a work in progress and unfortunately they operated on our tummies, not our brains.....

Hang in there. There is no rush, there is never a finish line. Ugh not uplifting :( but in the end, you are building strength to be successful long term. Don't lose sight of that. And focus on the items above to get you there. Best of luck!

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I had surgery June 10. I initially lost about 2 lbs every couple of days, then it just stopped. Everyone says use the My Fitness Pal Ap. I started that and realized I was only getting about 1/3 of my daily Protein, and probably 1/2 of the Water I needed. Found some ways to correct that and am back on the losing side, 5lbs this week! Protein makes a HUGE difference because that's what makes your body burn fat. I also feel much better and have a more positive outlook. Good luck!

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"It's important to condition your fast-twitch muscles because that's what keeps your body burning fat even when you aren't moving."

Hi can you explain this to me? I have never heard of a fast twitch muscle

before.

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I would thoroughly encourage you to get off the forums, bariatric websites, Instagram, whatever - unless you need to ask a specific question. Early on, I was on Instagram with a lot of WLS people and all I did was constantly compare myself - "why is she losing more weight than me?! I had my surgery two months before her!" That sort of thing. It was really getting me down and making me upset. So I stopped. I stopped reading forums and I quit Instagram and I focused on doing what I KNEW I was supposed to do in order to succeed. I check these forums once every few months, I still do what I'm supposed to do, and I'm down 120 lbs. in 9 months. Was it "slower" than some others? Sure. Did the weight still come off? You bet it did. Try to focus on yourself and your journey. You got this!!

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dash of sunshine what was the original post you were responding to?

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dash of sunshine what was the original post you were responding to?

Sorry I figured it out.

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I agree with above. Comparing with others can be useful but can also be harmful. They can be my exact height, start weight, etc and we loose differently. It may be different body workings, medical issues, activity rates, food choices or just the way the dice land. You are doing great! I would suggest using boards as inspiration to be the best YOU that you can be instead of comparing. Let those who are before or after you inspire you, because you too will reach your goals with perseverance and good health habits. (You have great progress already!!)

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