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Hello everyone.

Just a quick intro - my name is Lara, I'm 22 years old and I live in Brisbane (Australia). I got my surgery done in October 2005 and at the time weighed 155kg's. I now weigh 75kg's (I have lost 80kg's). I have a question about handling new people who don't know about my surgery. I feel a bit concerned about telling people about the surgery (there is a fair bit of judgement) especially when I first meet them. But I sometimes have problems where I have to make an excuse not to drink after I have dinner (on a date, for example). I find myself in situations where I have to explain why I can't do certain things or eat certain things but don't know exactly what to say.

I don't know how others deal with this, I'd like to hear your thoughts

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I always order the glass of Water for dinner and then just let it sit. Sometimes I will even go for a "sip" and take nothing.

As far as foods, I just merely say no thanks if I don't want something they are offering.

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Yes, I'd order the drink and simply not really drink it. I wouldnt tell anyone until you felt comfortable but these days I find I'm very slow to eat and it starts to worry me the thought of eating in situations (such as in a staff room with strangers when I'm on teaching rounds) where I simply cannot eat quickly or the types of foods that I'd normally eat at home.

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Let me tell ya if the people don't like it, tuff luck!! this is something you did because of your health. most people may ask me now but usally if i tell them they say "cool " and just start asking questions about it. but good luck with it and congrats on your loss

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Yes, I'd order the drink and simply not really drink it.

What you need to do is make sure you're sitting next to a large plant, and when he's not looking ... Water it with your soda!!!

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