Hello everyone.

Just a quick intro - my name is Lara, I'm 22 years old and I live in Brisbane (Australia). I got my surgery done in October 2005 and at the time weighed 155kg's. I now weigh 75kg's (I have lost 80kg's). I have a question about handling new people who don't know about my surgery. I feel a bit concerned about telling people about the surgery (there is a fair bit of judgement) especially when I first meet them. But I sometimes have problems where I have to make an excuse not to drink after I have dinner (on a date, for example). I find myself in situations where I have to explain why I can't do certain things or eat certain things but don't know exactly what to say.

I don't know how others deal with this, I'd like to hear your thoughts

I always order the glass of Water for dinner and then just let it sit. Sometimes I will even go for a "sip" and take nothing.

As far as foods, I just merely say no thanks if I don't want something they are offering.

Yes, I'd order the drink and simply not really drink it. I wouldnt tell anyone until you felt comfortable but these days I find I'm very slow to eat and it starts to worry me the thought of eating in situations (such as in a staff room with strangers when I'm on teaching rounds) where I simply cannot eat quickly or the types of foods that I'd normally eat at home.

Let me tell ya if the people don't like it, tuff luck!! this is something you did because of your health. most people may ask me now but usally if i tell them they say "cool " and just start asking questions about it. but good luck with it and congrats on your loss

Yes, I'd order the drink and simply not really drink it.

What you need to do is make sure you're sitting next to a large plant, and when he's not looking ... Water it with your soda!!!