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Just wondering if anyone here had wls at the same time as your spouse. My husband and I are considering sending our kids to my mom's house for a week or so while we have surgery on the same day. We would have a friend bring us home from the hospital. We figure by doing it all at the same time we can support each other through the various stages and have someone to commiserate with, ha ha. What say you... wise or naive?

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Why not...you two could support each other. However, don't forget that men lose weight a lot easier than women. It's just NOT fair!

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Very wise! I have a friend that did it with her husband. It motivated them both to stay on plan, and they did it so there would only be that one recovery time.

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My husband and I are doing this together. Our doctors encouraged us to do the procedures about a month apart. This would allow for one to take care of the other during the recovery process. My parents will watch the kids at our house, but there's one of us to help take care of them as there are 4 kids. Our initial plan was to have the surgeries at the same time, but the more we thought about it, the more we agreed with our doctors to have the procedures at separate times. Especially as one would need to drive the other to post-op appointments which are ~1.5 hours away at the doctor.

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Only issue is getting around, i had to stay away from driving and lifting things for 5 weeks after the surgery. Might pay to ask about that with your surgeon.

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my gutyhad it 2 months after me,he got to his goal in 5 months!im 6.5 months out and 12lbs to goal!smh men!

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My husband and I are also having the sleeve done. It will be closer to the end of the yr as we're just getting started. But we are doing them abt 4-6 weeks apart and that's bc our youngest daughter is disabled. Since we can't lift for a few weeks it's necessary that we each have time to heal well. ????

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doing it all at the same time we can support each other

@@muncheechee

i agree with @@naturegirl (and her doc) that it is advisable, helpful to have surgery a few days/weeks apart from better half

one can help the other during their different periods of recovery :)

you could still "get rid of the kids" for a while ;)

might/could be easier to have peace and quiet while you are recovering

mom is nice and volunteered :rolleyes:

having the sleeve one, two weeks apart etc.you will still be able to help, support the other :)

you are on the road to a healthier, happier, longer life :)

great present for each of you

wonderful gift to your children :)

You alllll deserve the best

good luck to both of you :)

speedy, uneventful recovery :)

kathy

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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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