My story is new gossip:(

[50lbstogo 10]

I can't believe this is happening today. After I swore to myself last June when I recieved the sleeve, it was a secret. I have had so much success with it and finally opened up to my sister in law this weekend.

She reacted exactly the way I knew she would. Judge judge judge!

Ugh....

All the typical stuff

"You didn't want to go to the gym"

"Easy way out"

As she said things like how could you not tell me?

Then she gossiped about it to friends and family member over the last 4 days!!!!!!!

Today she tells me she assumed it was ok to tell people.... And that if I wanted it a secret I shouldn't have told her!

I have no idea what to do next.... I am so embarrassed!!!!!

Trust no one seriously

[JamieLogical 8,727]

If you were sleeved in June, I assume you HAVE been going to the gym or exercising regularly since then, so your actions and progress should disprove her "You didn't want to go to the gym" and "Easy way out" comments, right?

[Len657 15]

I do go to the Gym.

This was most certainly not the easy way out.

I did not tell you because I needed someone to support me not Judge me.

[50lbstogo 10]

True

[Jennifer4775 39]

I didn't keep my surgery a secret. I told everyone. And I too, rec'd lots of interesting comments. The one that sticks out in my mind the most is "its the easy way out". If I've learned anything after being sleeved, is that is it not an easy way out by any means. Its a great tool, and yes, its helped me loose weight more efficiently than if I hadn't had the surgery. But it is NOT easy. A lot of work needs to go into it. You shouldn't be embarrassed about ANYTHING!!!

[Jerr_Bear 241]

Why would you let someone like her threaten your success? You've come so far. Now that your secret is out, maybe it's time you just own it and be proud of your decision.

Edited March 12, 2015 by Jerr_Bear

[LisaDomalewski 79]

Why would you let someone like her threaten your success? You've come so far. Now that you're secret is out, maybe it's time you just own it and be proud of your decision.

DITTO!

[vancarranza 8]

My sister got sleeved last July, I was sleeved March 9th and our mother will be sleeved April 20th. I got to say we are happy to have each other as support. On the other hand we haven't told a lot of people. Only about 3 other people than us know. And they have been so supportive.

I hope that you family will turn around and rather than gossip be a support system for you. This is definitely not an easy way out.

Best of luck

[Jovie62 135]

I didn't tell anyone at first but then I just decided to get it over with and tell people. I know it's no ones business but if it was any other surgery I would have said something. I'm not ashamed of it and the ignorance of people is their problem. That being said and I know it's to late, but I still question if saying something was a good idea. Oh well

[likelike 63]

That's kinda close to the "H" word, harassment. Tell her that and that'll shut her up. You don't have to justify what you did. You know you made this decision for your health by yourself. The audacity for her to say, "if you wanted it a secret you shouldn't have told her!" shows true character. As a stranger to you and your sister in law... I know that discussing that topic is a personal and intimate topic... I'd never tell another of someone else lifestyle choices... even if it wasn't a secret. Not her place to tell anyone.

[onmywaytoonederland 236]

I told everyone about the surgery and honesly, didn't give a rat's patootie about their opinion. This is MY life and if they want to support me and cheer me on, fine, if not, that's okay too. It has been 3 1/2 months and there has only been one person who said, c'mon, you can do it on your own....look at Sam (made up name, but real person), he did it. Little did he know that "Sam" had gastric bypass and didn't tell anyone! I would never give away his secret so I just said, yes, he is amazing and he did a great job on improving his health! I would never betray Sam's confidence in me and when I told him what was said, we both had a belly laugh about it. My point is, tell, don't tell, it is totally up to you. We only have this one life and the only one we will ever have to answer to is ourselves (in this life, anyway).

DO NOT be embarassed. If anyone asks why you didn't tell them, just say, I didn't want to hear any negative comments on a personal decision that I made to prolong my life. And, your sister in law sounds like a jealous witch!

[cara342 10]

Your SIL gave you a gift. The gift of knowing who she really is and that you should limit your contact with her and never trust her with anything ever again. Right now it feels awful, but push the embarrassment aside and tell yourself that her behavior is a reflection of her, not you. It may also help to discuss this issue with your brother if you have a good relationship. Then he will understand why you have to pull back from her.

[Jesser 295]

I don't see how anyone could ever say this is the easy way out lol just getting through one day of drinking nothing but liquids is torturous enough

[bikrchk 1,313]

So your SIL disagrees with your decision. SO WHAT? Does it change anything for you? Does it diminish your success in anyway? Don't give her the power to make you embarrassed! You took control of your health the best way you knew how. Nothing in the world to be embarrassed about, taking advantage of the tools available to us to get healthy!

So your SIL disagrees with your decision. SO WHAT? Does it change anything for you? Does it diminish your success in anyway? Don't give her the power to make you embarrassed! You took control of your health the best way you knew how. Nothing in the world to be embarrassed about, taking advantage of the tools available to us to get healthy!

[DianesTime 0]

Hi