Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Recommended Posts

I had bypass in Sep 2010 . I started out at 367 at my heaviest as far as I know. I have been down to 209 my lowest . Today at 240. For all of us that become so heavy it is for many different personal reasons . There is no one answer that will fix us all. And many that go through this process will fail. The surgery is a tool not a cure all. And for many including myself it is an emotional problem with physical results. For me it is a moment by moment struggle. I Am 47 years old . I pray for strength for us all to succeed .

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Sorry you seem to be struggling. I am sure that will be the same for me and certainly is for many. I have been going to a counselor in my pre-op preparation and I find it very helpful. Have you had a chance to do that? Even if just a few visits. I have been stunned as some of the issues I have uncovered / realized in just 1 short month.

Don't get me wrong! I cannot even pretend to understand what you are going through right now so I am not discounting your feelings at all! Just wanted to say glad you came here and I am sure you will get lots of encouraging feedback from others in your same position (and which I will hopefully look back on for advice in a few months myself.)

Best wishes!!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Thank you very much. There have been many good day too. I just understand that in all things there are many layers that consist of good and bad. I want people to understand its OK to fall down , you just have to be willing to pull your self back up. And sometimes you need to lean on others for support and be willing to in turn be able to support others in your time of strength. I guess I'm putting this out there for new people as an advisement.???? we are all warriors in the struggle of life .

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Kendra I love that you posted this! Sometimes the biggest struggle is recognizing and admitting where we fell. Seeing you here telling your story you've already got the hard part out of the way. You are still succeeding and this journey of ours is lifelong and challenging but fall down 7 times, get up 8! Glad to see you standing! Let's do this!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Dear rhodywoman , you are a bright spot to my day . First I want to say thank you for the extended hand in comradeship , and I am greatly honored to except it. You have inspired me to make today the best day I can. I will pledge to you and all others that read this that I will hold my self accountable and be strong for those that will need me. I will keep my shoulders square , my mind centered , my heart open , and my arms open to welcome others to this worthy journey that we will all take together. May God bless you , my sweet new sister .Yours truly , Kendra

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Kendra, I understand where you are coming from... In 2003 I had gastric bypass and list a total of 150lbs, but started having some health issues which cause me to be placed on a lot of medicines including steroids which cause you to gain weight. ...I regained all plus some. I found a great doctor and just had a revision done 3 weeks ago... You can get there, I have learned through therapy and pre surgery support groups that we deal with alot of mental issues that we didn't think we had... I wish you all the best..

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Thank you my dear. These are very important things that need to be put out there to all that stop by to read . These are important gems to be past on to others so they know that they are not alone, we all have separate lives but for some of us we share the same struggles. And there is hope and there are people to hold you up, you just have to reach out sand grab the life line that's being tossed out to you . May God guide us all to do the best for our selves and others. Your Sincerely , Kendra

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

    • CaseyP1011

      Officially here for a long time, not just a good time💪
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • KimBaxleyWilson

      Three months and four days ago... I was in Costa Rica having a life changing surgery! Yesterday we had a followup visit with Dr. Esmeral via video chat and this morning my middle number changed.  I'm down 47lbs and two pants sizes. I can wear a Large tshirt for the first time in like... 14 years! Woot!! Everything is going great. I have zero regrets. I went down to the riverwalk with a friend and walked 2 miles on Monday without even getting fatigued. And no more snoring or chugging pickle juice for crazy leg cramps! I need to go to the gym more... I'm making new shirts next week so that will motivate me. LOL But I'm also just not as TIRED all the time! I have a LONG way to go...but seeing the progress on the scales and in the mirror is a huge motivator!! Thank you all for cheering me on and supporting me!!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • bellaamey

      https://alluniqueguide.com/java-burn-coffee-reviews/
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×