I had bypass in Sep 2010 . I started out at 367 at my heaviest as far as I know. I have been down to 209 my lowest . Today at 240. For all of us that become so heavy it is for many different personal reasons . There is no one answer that will fix us all. And many that go through this process will fail. The surgery is a tool not a cure all. And for many including myself it is an emotional problem with physical results. For me it is a moment by moment struggle. I Am 47 years old . I pray for strength for us all to succeed .

Sorry you seem to be struggling. I am sure that will be the same for me and certainly is for many. I have been going to a counselor in my pre-op preparation and I find it very helpful. Have you had a chance to do that? Even if just a few visits. I have been stunned as some of the issues I have uncovered / realized in just 1 short month.

Don't get me wrong! I cannot even pretend to understand what you are going through right now so I am not discounting your feelings at all! Just wanted to say glad you came here and I am sure you will get lots of encouraging feedback from others in your same position (and which I will hopefully look back on for advice in a few months myself.)

Best wishes!!

Thank you very much. There have been many good day too. I just understand that in all things there are many layers that consist of good and bad. I want people to understand its OK to fall down , you just have to be willing to pull your self back up. And sometimes you need to lean on others for support and be willing to in turn be able to support others in your time of strength. I guess I'm putting this out there for new people as an advisement.???? we are all warriors in the struggle of life .

Kendra I love that you posted this! Sometimes the biggest struggle is recognizing and admitting where we fell. Seeing you here telling your story you've already got the hard part out of the way. You are still succeeding and this journey of ours is lifelong and challenging but fall down 7 times, get up 8! Glad to see you standing! Let's do this!

Dear rhodywoman , you are a bright spot to my day . First I want to say thank you for the extended hand in comradeship , and I am greatly honored to except it. You have inspired me to make today the best day I can. I will pledge to you and all others that read this that I will hold my self accountable and be strong for those that will need me. I will keep my shoulders square , my mind centered , my heart open , and my arms open to welcome others to this worthy journey that we will all take together. May God bless you , my sweet new sister .Yours truly , Kendra

Kendra, I understand where you are coming from... In 2003 I had gastric bypass and list a total of 150lbs, but started having some health issues which cause me to be placed on a lot of medicines including steroids which cause you to gain weight. ...I regained all plus some. I found a great doctor and just had a revision done 3 weeks ago... You can get there, I have learned through therapy and pre surgery support groups that we deal with alot of mental issues that we didn't think we had... I wish you all the best..

Thank you my dear. These are very important things that need to be put out there to all that stop by to read . These are important gems to be past on to others so they know that they are not alone, we all have separate lives but for some of us we share the same struggles. And there is hope and there are people to hold you up, you just have to reach out sand grab the life line that's being tossed out to you . May God guide us all to do the best for our selves and others. Your Sincerely , Kendra