I know, I know, I know...the whole subject of whether to tell or not. I have chosen not to tell anyone about my upcoming surgery, only my husband knows. Problem is I have two teenagers still at home and I know I have to say something to them. I haven't said anything to them yet because I I don't want them accidentally telling their friends, or their cousins, etc. but they will know something's up when I am not home one night ( hubby said we can say I am visiting friends from college) but how will I explain my eating changes and discomfort I may be in? I really think I may just fib and say I am having a hiatal hernia fixed but I have never mentioned anything like this before.

I'm so torn..if I tell them, I will feel better about not lying but I run the chance of my secret not being secret any more...then again, they might be able to keep it secret...help, my brain is spinning.????

Thanks for all the different opinions. After I got my final insurance approval today (I had my surgery date already but this just made it more real), I decided to tell them.well, actually my 15 yr old saw the Flintstones vitamins and said Why do we have these? She was really confused, so it actually was the perfect time. My 17 yr old son said good for me and he was proud. My daughter said she wondered why I had so many spots lately. They aren't dumb so honesty was best. The clinker....they both said " don't tell M", my daughter studying abroad!

I also told them this is just between us...I don't want people knowing. I am not embarrassed or anything but I have a nosy, gossipy sister who works in a very large office where I used to work, and she's always negative about certain ones she's told me who have done the surgery. I also have a brother in law who loves to tell everyone everything...I just don't want this on the evening news lol.