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I just seem to either be putting on or not loseing at all this is so anoyying i feel like iv wasted my money, i see people saying they have lost 40 ect before they even have a fill i had surgery in november 2014 and in total have lost 20lb (which 10 was feom pre op), has anyone else been like this, iv had 2 fills and one next week but i can still eat as much i could before surgery i dont want to be struggerling like this reason why i got the band!!!!

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Have you talked to you surgeon and primary doctor about this? There may be a slip in the band. I haven't had the band myself but you should always bring up your concerns with them. I'd schedule an appointment to meet and chat with them about what they think could help. I'm sorry you are going through this. I wish for the best.

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no slip in band. for the first 6 mos. you are on a diet. we call this bandster hell. losing 10 lbs since surgery isn't bad. hunger is a terrible thing to fight, but fight you must. the band eventually will restrict how much you eat. but there is a lot of food we can eat that slides right through, so you must train yourself to eat a 1/2 cup of food 3 times a day. whether you are hungry or not. don't get discouraged, if you follow and get yourself used to the 1/2 cup of food per meal you will succeed in band life. measure your food until you get the feel for the amount. once you do this you will see the wt. start coming off. eat Protein first, vegetable second and lastly if you are able to eat carbs. but still only in small amounts. when you finally get to the green zone you will have trained yourself how much to eat and that amount will satisfy you for hours. I wish you luck. its hard work but worth it. it's harder to fail and than get back on track.

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I know you feel frustrated right now, it's completely normal. Just remember this is just temporary!!! Until you can find that "sweet" spot which for some comes quicker than for others. Until then just focus on making the healthiest choices possible, be sure you're getting 60-80g of Protein per day, 80 oz of Water, some sort of movement and eventually the scale has no choice but to start moving. Until then focus on your Non-scale victories (NSV's) no matter how small you think they may be they all matter. Right now you're probably losing some inches so try to gauge your loss by more than just the # on the scale. How are your clothes fitting, have you noticed an increase in energy etc. Don't give up, you just started and trust me the rewards that are waiting for you up ahead and far greater than you can imagine right now!!!!

Can you give us an example of what you're eating and how much on a daily basis so maybe we can help further?

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Terry I've heard people referring to the green zone before, what exactly is that? I was banded in 2010 but my band has been empty for the last 18 months, going for my first full on Tuesday, I know it will probably take me a few fills to get to restriction but would be good to understand what is meant by green zone x

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@@gail10 there is a thread under trending topics that is titled what does your green zone feels like. There have been several posts. It may be good to read through those so u can get a variety of responses nut basically the green zone for me is eating my alloted amount 4oz Protein 1/2 cup veggies and 1carb serving if you have room which I don't. This should keep u satisfied for 4-5 hours. I have no desire for foods that I once craved, I eat what I eat and I'm satisfied. My craving have changed, i now crave yogurt vs junk etc. Its not a full feeling but a feeling of no longer hungry satisfied. I hope this helps a little. Goid luck with your first fill. Youll do great just stick with it!!

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I understand your frustration but lossing 10lbs is still good!! Focus on the good!! I'm 1yr post op and not where I wanted to be!! I was 198 on the day of surgery so I started off with less to lose but had a reasonable goal of 145 after 1 yr!! I have struggle the last 5 months with little weight loss!! Due to life changes moving and stressors it's been hard to do right!! I have also STILL not reached the "green zone" and I currently at 7cc in a 11cc band. Just got to 7cc today!! The doctor is my new one since the move but he said not to lose hope!! Just keep with it!! I'm also taking meds that increase my appetite which makes my journey even harder!! I have to remind myself daily that I can do this!! That I'm strong!! And after 1 yr I have to remind myself where I was!! I was a sz 16-18 pants at the beginning and now I'm a sz 8 so although the scale isn't where I want the inches are going!! That's another good thing to do!! Measure yourself!! That way you can see the changes there sometimes there is no weight change but the are inches going!! Don't lose hope!! I remind myself still and we must continue reminding ourself a daily forever!! It's a life journey and you just started!! I recently got a tattoo..I'm a tattoo girl...lol but it was my way to help me remember to believe in myself!! And it's on my wrist so when I exercise and eat I see it!! It's my way of remember I can do it!! We all have our things that's mine...find something to help you keep the faith in yourself!! It helps!!! Good luck!! We all support each other!

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@@zoeiyla hey! I was the exact same when I first started! Now I've lost over 100 pounds. You seem young like me when I started too. Evenutally you will get to your "sweet" spot where you forget what it feels like to be hungry. Which is amazing! Start working out, get your heart rate up! Stay positive. You'll lose it!!

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Thank you all so much for your replys i have another fill on saturday so will see, yeah i was 20 when banded been banded 3 months now alot of my problem is head hunger i no that

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When getting fills it takes time before you really start feeling the restrictions. With me it was because I had a bigger band. A friend of mine was at 5 cc's in her band and my is 10 cc's. It took about 6 or so fills for me. So don't get discourage. Also some people can loose 100 lbs in a short time others can't. My doctor said slow and steady was best and that for my first year 45lbs is what I should loose and I did. So hang in there

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I lost and regained 10-12lbs for the first 10-11 months after surgery. Your band was merely INSTALLED November 2014.

Once youre in the green zone, aka Sweet Spot, it wont even be necessary to count calories.

The weight melted off once my restriction was consistent.

Any weightloss before the green zone relies solely upon your dieting & workout regimen....also called Bandsters Hell

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