A am so depressed I could just scream. I am scheduled to be banded on June 27th. Happes to be by 29 year old sons birthday. Boy is he laying on the guilt trip! my daughter in law "don't even want to discuss it". I think the main problem is I am doing something for ME for a change instead of everyone else! How dare I??? I think because I have cancer and it is not curable they think why bother. And I am self pay to make it even worse, so you know they are really upset over me borrowing the money:eek: I take 12 pills a day and 2 shots a day for diabeties, blood pressure etc. I want this for me. I want to get off some of these meds and be able to fight when the bone marrow transplant comes up. I feel guilty for borrowing the money, guilty for thinking of me, guilty for missing my sons birthday...... So what do I do????? Tell them to get a life or what????????????:faint:Please tell me there are some of you that have gotten off your meds. How many of you have literally had to fight your own family?

You are doing this for YOU. If your son and daughter in law never approve of your wishes that is too bad, this is your life! I believe once you have it done and start losing the weight they will love the way you feel about yourself mentally and physically.

Good luck to you, and prayers for your medical conditions. I was banded on May 23rd and feel wonderful.

Another wayt to approach your son is to tell him that up until now you have been open with him about what you are doing in your life but if sharing your life with him is going to cause problems, you'd rather keep it to yourself. Let him know that you've put real thought into this decision, that you believe that going through with this is what you believe will give you your best shot at survival and that having your families support in this decision would mean the world to you.

good luck!

Thanks eveyone!!! It feels great to have support from all of you!