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Hi All!!

Have any of you gone through the surgery with your spouse? We are planning to have the surgery done on the same day. My biggest concern, which some of you, if not all, may think is really dumb, but I hate tht we won't be able to be there for eachother when the other comes out of surgery. I have asked to share a room, doctor has said that cannot happen. But I have heard you are up and walking around that same day, so we could visit eachother after the fact. What do you all think? Does it make sense to do it all together? The best part of it would be that we would be on the same diets together!! That will be extremely helpful to both of us.

Your thoughts are very much appreciated!!

Maria

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I met a couple doing just that in my pre-op class. I don't know their names or anything, but she was going in at 8 am; he was the next appt on the same day (same surgeon) @ 10 am. They were really looking fwd to getting it done at the same time, going thru everything together, etc. They had adult children living in the same city who could help them if needed - that would be my biggest concern - if I needed help AND he needed help, you need someone who could help and drive you both to post-op classes, hospital, etc., if need be.

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Thanks! Yes, we have two adult children who live with us, so we have someone to drive us to and from the hospital, as well as help around the house as needed. The doctor also said he has done couples before. I just wish we could share a room! :)

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I think your concerns are valid. I would just be worried that if either one of you need help getting up etc that it would be difficult. On the other hand I think it's an awesome thing to do together.

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My husband and I had sleeve surgery the same day. I was first, he was second. I woke up in the recovery room right around the time they wheeled him into the recovery room and put him right next to me. I stayed there for a few minutes until he woke up and then they had me get up and walk to my room. I was in my room for about 15 minutes when they had him get up and walk to his room, which was right next door to mine. I got up and walked into his room and we stayed together the rest of the day, getting up and walking together, trying different juices, everything was together. We left the hospital about 8 hours after surgery and a friend drove us home. We recovered side by side and have been each others partner through the whole process.

As of today, 4.5 months later, we've stayed within a few pounds of each other as far as amount lost. I'm at 85 pounds and he's at 81. I am so happy we did this and that we did it together. It's definitely been a challenge, but having him right there with me has been a major blessing.

If you have any specific questions, feel free to ask them or to pm me. :)

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Thank you!!! That makes me feel much better!!! We don't have a date yet....still working through the process, but I will definitely reach out to you!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

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