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So for some reason my boyfriend isn't too thrilled about my going to the plastic surgeon. I've come so far and I have a consultation with the surgeon in February and he keeps telling me I don't need to do this. He is so supportive with everything else but for some reason he gets so upset with the Tummy Tuck. I'm doing it either way but how do I get him on board?

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I want one in about a year. How long have you been at goal and what are his objections? Also wondering if he is overweight?

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I'm having the all the way around lower lift done on March 2. And the hubby tells me the same thing. I think he's worried about the surgery itself. But then he threw the getting a nice body comment in there and that I will want to leave him. But that's not why I'm doing it. I will be 9 years out in April and down 165 lbs I want this. I need this for me. Yah I'm nervous as can be but extremely excited also

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My family is anti me getting another surgery (have had 14) and are anti me getting another degree (have 3). I don't blame them, they are worried for me and want me to be "there" mentally, emotionally & physically. I truly respect & understand where they are coming from so will do my best to tone and tighten through working out.

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My family was worried and thought I looked good like I was. I did it anyway and they were supportive, but my parents have forbidden any more surgery. I'm 52, lol.

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With all due respect, it's your body and your decision. He may never agree. His problem. Once he sees the happiness it brings you, maybe he will see it differently. Agree to disagree and move forward. Your life! Live it!

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I had an abdominoplasty, amongst other plastics procedures, and it is AWESOME. I have never had a flat stomach. Even when I was thin, I always had a little fat roll around my lower tummy. I can now wear whatever I want and never worry that my flab is showing. I have gained a huge amount of confidence and I think that if I had a boyfriend who I was with during the whole weight loss process and through plastic surgery, he may have begun to feel a little insecure. I would coddle him a bit and understand now that you're hot, he might not feel as awesome himself, but in the end it is your body and your decision and if he doesn't like it, well then too bad.

Trust me, you will LOVE it, and your opinion is the only one that matters. :) Good luck!

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My boyfriend kept telling me I didn't need it. About a month before surgery he realized I was gonna do it so he stopped discouraging me and became supportive. After I recovered he decided it was definitely worth jt!

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My family were not against my surgery - My Mum was very worried about me. When we tried on my compression garment before my TT - My Mum was helping to 'tuck the skin in to it' and she really understood then that the skin needed to go.

After all the Ops - She still tells me how worried she was but has seen how the fabulous results have made me feel so much better about myself and given me self confidence I never had before

This decision is not about anyone else - They can be for or against but ultimately this is YOU - How you feel inside about yourself, and mentally - I am a whole new woman now! And I would do it all agian - ten times over to feel this much better about myself.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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