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So my boyfriend is very supportive of me getting the sleeve. He is also stressing himself out because he wants to make sure he is doing everything he can to help me be successful. He's nervous that he's going to fail at supporting my nutritional needs etc. Are there any support groups for significant others or do you have any advice for him? Surgery is scheduled for Feb 9th

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I suggest telling him that you go to nutritional meetings and have the training. You'll get everything you need. He isn't responsible for this.

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My boyfriend is the cook in this house, so it was invaluable to have him on board. He batch cooks on one of his off days, and then we eat on that all week. He makes sure that I have multiple Protein choices and three veggies on hand to circulate all week. We neither one do Desserts, so he buys me apples and tangerines usually. He is a big help. I can cook, but he is much better and trained in the Mediterranean style since he is from Malta. He cooks, so I clean up - fair deal.

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My boyfriend is the cook in this house, so it was invaluable to have him on board. He batch cooks on one of his off days, and then we eat on that all week. He makes sure that I have multiple Protein choices and three veggies on hand to circulate all week. We neither one do Desserts, so he buys me apples and tangerines usually. He is a big help. I can cook, but he is much better and trained in the Mediterranean style since he is from Malta. He cooks, so I clean up - fair deal.

My boyfriend usually cooks since he's home first from work and he really enjoys cooking. He just wants to make sure he can do whatever he can on his side to help me succeed

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My best advice would be to involve him in as many of your appointments that you can. My husband and my 15yr old daughter went to most of my appointments. They both went to my 2 1/2 hour post op class. That way they could hear first hand what was involved, and what I was going to go thru. They were able to ask their questions. I really think it helped my daughter understand better what was going to be involved and what I was going to have to do after surgery.

They also both went with me to a support meeting a month after my surgery. My husband has gone to all my follow up appointments too.

And also be grateful that he is so supportive, there are a lot of people on here whose family, significant other or friends are not very supportive!! That saddens me.

Good Luck with your journey!!! :)

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